I'm going to try to make this as quick to the point i can: 3 weeks ago i met a girl. She gave me her name on my fb. I added her. messaged her throughout the whole day then got her number. She texted me that night and after me asking her "would you like to see me?" she goes "do u want to actually see me, or just an ego booster?"
Me: Which do u prefer?
Her: the first one
Me: i'll ask you out but not tonight (drives them crazy lol)

She calls me about an hour later (^the line always tends to make them go crazy lol). We spoke for about 3 hours and then i ask her to chill the following monday during our break. We had lunc but it ddn really get anywhere so i thought it was over, but we kept texting each other throughout the week

The following sat: i tell her i will be my her neighborhood with my frat bros. She said she wants to see me. She says she will text me when she's there. I wait for it; i dont get it.

The next morning she goes "way to answer my text" (which i ddn get, and i tell her that)

we text each other for the week


During that week i ask her to go to the aquarium with me this sat(it just passed). SHe said MAYBE =/. SHe never brought it up again, so on fri i asked her what she's doing tomorrow (saturday).
Her: loft party
Me: come to my frat party instead. be my date; we'll be center of attention
Her:But there's A LOT of drinking at this party.
<At this point i was like, wtf?>
Me: fine, go to your party.
Her: dont be mean
I havent texted her back.

DO i still got a shot? There's a crazy club party this thursday and i wanna ask her to go, but i don't wanna be shut down again and make it sound like a desperate attempt to see her again

BTW: she is an HB9.

Help me out pickup artist(s)

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"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do"

Most guys at this point have said something stupid, cause they feel hurt but try to sound cool "hey i don't like flakey girls, see you" and ruin everything.

You might have by saying "fine go to your party" and not following it up with something funny. Up until that point i can see it as "playful banter". You should always keep the "playful banter" frameset in mind in any text chat, cause there is so much leeway for how things can be interpreted, so ignore the negative voice in your head that says to interpret it negatively.

Cause when she said "But there's A LOT of drinking at this party." she was probably just baiting you and expecting you to keep conversationally sparring with her to convince her to come. Whatever jokes usually work for you. Eg. "Seriously, it'll be awesome - you'll be so popular when you're hanging out with the best looking guy at the party."

The fact that she bothered to text back "don't be mean" makes me think moreso that she wasn't expecting a negative reply. If she was blowing you off she wouldn't have to tell you to not be mean, I believe. She wouldn't care to reply in that case.

Going back to banter - it's still traditional for men to chase women in some form - it's a primal thing, the woman has to hold back and be uncertain, while the guy continues to behave in a way that makes her feel like everything will be okay and she'll be looked after. She has a lot to lose by dating the wrong guy, and if he can't handle a bit of that testing, then he's not good enough for her.



When you contact her again you should keep it light and happy. Maybe something along the lines of "Well, I've finally fully recovered from that bloody awesome party that you turned down for your crappy lame drinking party, and I can finally let you know that there's is this crazy club party on Thursday that no one should miss."

I advise coming up with your own thing though. In that one I avoided words that directly ask her to come along. I think it sounds better, and of course it always leaves you the option of doing the Mystery thing if she turns it down - you can say "I didn't say you could come, I just wanted to tell you what you're missing out on "

What I normally do is act as if nothing has even happened.

Let her bring up her text about you being mean. This allows you to say something to the extent of, "Oh, I wasn't trying to be mean. I was just messing with you. I'm sorry if you took it like that."

It is far fetched but it has worked for me a lot. It keeps you moving forward and puts the burden of her over reacting on her side.

It works for me most of the time.

Good Luck
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