I went out with a girl last Sunday - we were introduced by a mutual friend who loves this girl and thinks I am hot and cool. We talked over email, then called then met up for dinner and a concert on the Mall in DC. I thought we had a great time, she was all touchy feely, I was funny, etc...up to our meet up she was always more or less prompt when responding.

Got home Sunday night and she had already sent me two emails with listings for houses for sale (she found out that night through convo that I'm looking).

The next morning, I write back, say 'thanks' and ask if she can recommend any realtors in the city (she bought a condo a while back). This was Memorial day. She didn't respond all day Monday, or Tuesday, so I called her on Tuesday night around 7 just to say 'what's up' chat whatever. No call back.

The next morning she sends an email responding to my request for any realtor advice and apologizing for missing my call: "Sorry I missed your call last night. I was biking home and then didn't realize you had called until it was too late. How was your Memorial Day?"

About three hours later, I sent her a message asking her if she wanted to go look at houses with me that night (she had confessed to LOVING to do that and knows a lot about real estate in the city) and in exchange for her expertise I'd buy her a coffee/dinner (with my gift certificates that I rack up at the elementary school where I work).

She didn't respond to that email until seven hours later saying "shoot, I'm really sorry "Shoot - I'm really sorry I didn't see this earlier. Email me at XXX and i'll get it on my blackberry. This week is tough because my neighbor is moving and we're having good-bye dinners for her, but I'm around next week if you want to look around."

So I waited til yesterday and sent her an email late at night telling her I was busy wed and thurs with grad school, but did she want to do something tonight. Well, first thing this morning I get an email saying that she's actually not free this week cause her dad is in town and they're going camping somewhere on Thursday.
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Feels like I'm getting blown off, but she also is keeping the door slightly open. I want to send something like 'hey, this whole process works much better when I propose something and if you can't, you counter-propose something. Much too busy to keep this up" but she already did kind of counter-propose and then said she was actually busy.

Forget her. You've expended a lot of time on her already and she's got you. walk away from it.

Me I've gone from giving girls far too many chances and being strung along to just one chance. they take it or not.

You gave her loads of chances. Move on

I am by no means a PUA expert yet, but Im going to agree with Slowburner here. In my few experiences when girls leave the door only slightly open then its pretty much closed. Some girls are too nice to slam the door in a guys face escpecially after she led them on a bit, so they'll only keep it open..slightly

She knows you want to hang-out with her by now. And if she is interested let her be the one to get back with you. Freeze her out and if she doesn't come back then just move on dude.

Three strikes and she's out.

That's way too many excuses, and indeed that is what they are excuses. She is just stringing you along whilst keeping the window open. Fuck that.

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You've already made it clear that want to hang out with her. If she doesn't put some effort forth too, you can't really do anything about it. You can't force her to hang out, only give her the opportunity to. I'd just give it a rest with her and move on for now. If you just leave her alone she may realize she does want to hang out and contact you; if not, her loss for missing out.