Hey guys,

Im somewhat new to this pick up stuff but not at all new to chasing girls. I met a HB8 last night at a friends house then we all went out to the bars. I talked to her a little at the house, but I noticed her looking at me when I was the center of attention a few times. When we got to the bar, we talked a little more but never made great progress, but I think I noticed some IOI's. She happens to be a personal trainer, and I go to the gym 4-5 times a week, so we talked about going to the gym together sometime.

I usually don't follow up the next day on numbers but A) I wanted to go to the gym today, B) I am pretty busy during the day the next few days, and C) we didn't talk enough that any spark may be gone if I wait a few days.

I texted her: "hey new personal trainer! its xxxxx from last night, Im goen to the gym after work in an hour or two, you want to join me?"

Its been an hour or so and no reply. If I dont hear from here is there a next move or am I done? Also, should I have done something different with the text?

Thanks!

Cotto,

That was a pretty good text actually. It is a thing to do on a somewhat date that gives you something else to focus on and do besides having awkward conversation like people have to do in a coffee shop or something. You are right in what you did. If there is no response all you can do is try it again after a few days, and if still nothing then oh well.

You're on the right path man, just keeping on walking down it,

Jon

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Thanks man. A few minutes ago she texted me "I've been here I gotta leave by 4. Sry." (its 3:30 now) Now Im a little stumped haha, she doesn't sound to interested cause she didn't give me any loop to keep the conversation going. Should I text back some BS like "np hit me up next time you go" or just let it die and try again in a few days? Or just move on?

Im not all that concerned with this one chick, Im just tryen to get the process down.

Thanks again for your help.

You are most welcome.

All I can suggest at this point is to experiment, when you are trying to get your own process down.

In my opinion I am always pushing the interaction to a close one way or the other. I want to rule her in or out quickly so I can stop wasting my time. Although, some people say playing it safe is the way to go, I know it's my job as a guy to "lead" the interactions.

Anyways I would probably let this go, put her in the "rotation" so to speak of people you talk to, and try again later. If she is cold again then you know what to do.

Good luck with her,

Jon

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I agree, if your not bothered either way then deff. experiment. when ever i feel that way i just send somthing a little risky, sometimes it pulls off, others, it doesnt.... it hasnt a lot mind you but then, i knew the risk i was taking and knew what their intentions would be if they did respond.

having said the previous, if she is a friend of a friend, you dont want things to be awkward next time you meet and if thats likely then just dont send another, then, when you see her next time, you can see if she picks up on it. if she's interested then i would imagin she would use it as a good excuse to start up a convo.

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