This is the deal and I'd like your opinion on how things have progressed. I met my female roommates friend once very briefly at my house and she brought her over last Thursday for a BBQ. So, we hung that night with a couple people and we got very drunk (my other roomie just left for Afghanistan and we partied for him). I got a good vibe from her, busted her balls for stuff and caught her looking at me several times. Went to the bar afterwards and she was mobbed by guys, so I let her be. When I told her I was leaving I went to give her a hug and she kissed me right on the lips.

I was pissed that I didn't get her number that night and thought about it all weekend. Sunday comes around and I cut my lawn but needed gas. I decided to drive up this one hill by my house with the hope of seeing her. I actually went out of my way to drive up this hill after getting gas and she was at the top of the hill walking down. I couldn't believe it.

So, I asked her what she was doing. She said she was going to a coffee shop. I asked if she needed company? She said sure, but she also said her friends were coming.

I said, ok, well give me your number if I decide to come. I'm busy.

She gave it to me and we parted. I wasn't going to go, but I called her up later and said sorry for not coming, but told her that we should go out this week. We figured that Wednesday or Thursday would be good, but like a fucking idiot I told her to let me know what's better for her, instead of confirming a day and time. She said she would get back to me soon.

I'm a very impatient person and won't get back to her until she calls me, but am I freaking out for no reason cause she hasn't called yet or is there anything you can read into this? I mean it is Wednesday morning right now!

The one thing bothered me was that my roomie and her were talking about me at work, and of course my roomie talked me up, but this girl said she's not looking for anything now. What the fuck does that mean?
But she also told my roomie that she likes me.

I just don't get it. Any comments would be appreciated. Thank you.

Grab a Beez and relax.

Some chicks let shit go down without caring because they ARE NOT in a hurry, she knows whats to come after that little ordeal came down..question is can you continue on the right path.

1. Ive made dates within hours of actually going, and with really no knowledge at the moment of the situation at hand(i.e what time, where to go..). Best route because its a spur of the moment action. Plus sort of planning ahead is minorly lame, especially if she barely knows you yet and your already trying to "hold down OFFICIALLY to the cue" when to meet up. Dont show eagerness.

2. Id let all the bulshit "middleman" talk mean nothing. This is between you and her... not her, your friend(one telling you she likes you), and you..not a 3 person relationship here. You know she vibes you so why do you have to have her friend giving you the advice? Run the show on your own clock.

3.If it was me, Id call her up one time to set up something, especially since you ditched her that one time(good move as you can re-extend with a reason to get back together with her). Offer to go grab some coffee or lunch with her, get the 1 on 1 time you need to make moves..If she turns you down, see if she re-extends another date to hang out on, otherwise let it be and move your ass onward.

/collect

You've been a bit too passive with her, in my opinion. I don't mean that you should have been slobbering all over her or anything but from what you've said it doesn't sound like you did anything to show that you want anything other than to just hang out with her as a friend. Frankly the Wednesday/Thursday plan sounds so casual that I wouldn't be surprised if she forgot all about it.

^ All wonderful advice. Also keep in mind that even though she says "Well I'm not looking for something right now" doesn't mean she means that. Women don't really know what they want, so it's up to us (The Alpha Male) to give them that nudge in the direction we both know she wants to go in. In my past expierence, this has happened time and time again, so next time you talk to her, LET HER KNOW what you guys will be doing. But good job so far man, good luck and keep us posted on what's happening.


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