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Ok so I’m 17 years old and i just had a barbeque that i threw for like 13 people. One of the girls that was there i tried to get with and that the same time was the reason for the party. We talked i made her laugh a lot all in all it was a great night. Now i was thinking my good friend who is her best friend who’s a guy can say hey don’t tell Dave this but he thinks ur cute. Another reason I wanted to do this is by her reaction I could tell if it’s a going well or no. What you think its not supposed to be anything huge it’s just going to show her that I’m really interested now she will have proof. If you dont think i should do this what do you guys think i should do?
Bro, I'm not a genius at this stuff, so take my advice for it's worth, but I think your plan is a bad idea. It seems to me that you're look for some sort of proof that a girl is interested - what I've found personally is that going out and looking for interest is a great way to destroy any interest she may have had. You can notice IOI's which are natural, but I wouldn't expect her to go out on a limb for you just yet.
And even if she does think you're good looking, so what? What have you really won from that knowledge? It's really meaningless info imo.
It's really an inner game thing I think... you said that you and her seemed to have fun talking - you made her laugh a lot and she wasn't trying to run away from you. That's a good sign. Just assume that she's into you, continue C&F, and don't get needy.