I met this hb8 at a NYE party and we got on pretty well. I ran the best friend's test on her and the number guess (she picked 7, what a surprise ). She then was calling me BFF for the rest of the night [IOI].

I then ran some mildly successful text game on her a few days later and she then sent me a text saying "please call me, it would really make my day".

however, i didn't call her (kicking myself now) and ever since she's been pretty cold.

my main problem is that i told a few people that i was chatting her up and this has now worked its way round to her in a kind of chinese whispers fashion. we haven't even met face-to-face since NYE and now she texted me saying "why have loads of people been saying that we are going out?"

she obviously knows i have been talking about her and this now makes me sound really needy.

what should i do? i tried to fob it off with some light banter but this has obviously put a large spanner in the works!


b.t.w i am familar with the PU theory and principles but i have had a limited success rate

That sounds kinda weird. In all honesty, if you didn't go around telling people you were seeing this girl you don't have anything to worry about. Just tell her the truth, that you've mentioned her to a couple of people and things got talked up a bit as it got spread around. You're not in the wrong here, so remember that. It's probably best you walk away from this one, cos if you start trying to get together with her now this whole thing is always gonna be in the back of her mind and she'll be a bit weird about it.

I actually had a similar situation, I made the mistake of having a one night stand with a girl who is in my social circle and she texted asking me why I told everyone. Now, I never make my business with any girls known to anyone so of course I knew right away that somethnig was up. Either someone saw her leaving my house the next day or she was the one telling people, Of course it turned out that she was the one at fault, cos she told all her girl friends - as they do - and it got spread around by them. The girl you're dealing with very well may have told people about you, and the same thing has happened - her friends told people etc etc and someone got it wrong, and started telling people you were going out. Who knows? And more importantly, who cares...

You and me are gonna go out for a mad bant some time by the way. I flipped a coin and it said we should.

I agree the best kept secret, usually is the one you kept allll to yourself..because people are quick to talk.

Why?

- Jealousy and envy (plus competition)
- Out of sheer boredom (some exciting gossip brightens up their boring day-to-day life that's filled with daily routines, obligations and annoying responsibilities that makes them CRAVE for a little bit of excitement in life)

Why do girls act totally different around you after hearing the rumors? Because 9 out of 10 times, they think YOU were BRAGGING..that and the fact that they like to keep private affairs private (classical mistake: having a fight with her, then telling a friend about the fight and then telling her you asked for advice).

So next time: don't kiss and tell

Gonna have to agree with Mr. Solomon up there, the idea is it got around back to her, and now she has all these wonderful interesting ideas about you! You may be able to salvage this, but none the less I think it would be less stressful for you to just walk away.

Talk to her, tell her what's up, it'd be alright to even take some blame (yeah we're supposed to be the target, but when it comes down to feelings, be human), let her understand that you can see how she feels about this, then leave it at that. By leaving her on a positive note you can absolutely let her cool down for a bit, then who knows, several months later down the line you might hook up with her again.

Win win situation. Just let it simmer and cool down, then take a bite, it shouldn't burn you at that point.

Yeah cheers for the feedback!

Me thinks i'm gonna leave this one be and let her do the work if she is up for it. I think a lot of it has to do with guys subconsciously cock-blocking or even wanting to cause a bit of commotion by spreading shitty rumours like this. It is incredibly childish when you think of it but i do need to learn how to keep my mouth shut in future if i don't want to appear to be like some sort of creep!


oh and i wish i could kiss and tell but i didn't even k-close her which makes this whole thing even more ridiculous!!

you: cause they probably think we'd make a good couple... Have you been putting ideas in their heads?

that's i great one. i think the moment has passed now but that's brilliant to use in the future if i'm ever in that situation again.

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