| Typical first date.
"Let's meet for a cup of something delicious and make friends. Which is better for you this week, Tuesday or Thursday."
We meet. Hug at first sight, neg purse/nails/height/anything. Grab cup of tea. Sit. "A friend of mine, he thinks he's like this whole pick-up artist and everything, taught me this great icebreaker. It's called the Cube. Have you heard of it?" Protection against her calling me out on canned material. Do the cube. Use the cube as a conversation starter, not as a routine. Each of her answers should be followed up and explored as a conversation in of itself.
General conversation. If she asks boring questions like where do you work, how long you been here, etc, call her out on it and ask better questions (e.g., "if you could live in any 3 places in the world, what would they be" or "if you had to have a tattoo, what & where would it be" or "we found a stargate that takes you to any place & time, name 3 places you would go. Then it's broken, in which place/time would you stay?")
Neg anything she says, but make her feel like she's slowly winning you over.
Change venue. "Let's go grab some ice cream."
Walking, take arm-in-arm, "Have you ever walked with such a sexy man?" Notice if she holds on to you longer or not. Great calibration to see where you stand with her. "lAlright, show's over. Now get off me."
Get ice cream. Sit. Talk.
Change venue again to bar/lounge/bartini
My personal preference is to generally sit next to her, not across from her.
If you're in a busy place, play game "Fuck, marry, or kill" (point out people you would fuck, you would marry, or whom you would kill. Builds our own little world. Now you're sitting next to her. Evolution-phase-shift for kiss close. If it fails, you need more private place. Take a walk. After escalating kino, stop walking, say, deliberately, "What would you do, if i kissed you, right, now.". Don't wait for answer; it's rhetorical. Just lean in for the kiss. After kiss close, walk with arm around her. NOW i ask personal questions. What she thinks of life. Where is she going in life. What is her ambition. What did she want to be when she was growing up (and don't tell me princess!). Use negs with caution, as she is opening up to you and is a lot more vulnerable. After you got good rapport, say "I gotta tell you, my first impression of you was pretty shitty, but as i actually got to know you better, you're actually pretty interesting." Make her feel like she won you over. "There's still the problem of your cooking habits" or whatever else you learned about her that you disapprove. Neg hit. Just when she thinks she won you, make your approval just an inch out-of-reach.
My signature is to show her a magic trick after parting kiss. ALWAYS leaves her running after me, grabbing, "how'd you do that?!?" Smile, kiss, turn around, leave.[/u]
RULE OF THUMB: If you don't kiss close on first date, you will very likely never see her again.
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