| Thought I’d share my day3 routine with you guys since a lot of people have been asking about how to escalate and set up logistics when on day2s and day3s.
There really isn’t much literature out there on exactly what to do and how to do it in terms of mid and end game so I had to figure it out by making a lot of mistakes. Hopefully this will save you from making some of the same mistakes.
You setup the day2/3 by getting her to come over so you have good logistics. During phone game, accuse her of doing something that makes her owe you. E.g. pretend to be offended and tell her she has to make you dinner to make up for it. If she says yes (which she will if this is a day3 and you have compliance), it’s on. It’s probably the best day3 ever.
Ideally, figure out when she doesn’t have work the next day. This is especially important for me since I live 60 miles from San Diego and 100 miles from LA. It takes a lot more compliance to get a girl to drive that far versus, say, down the street.
Side Note: Haha I’m totally SPAM my best day3 routine. I’m doing this exact thing tomorrow. So what you want to do is tell her to get there at 5. By the way, you’ll want to have ideally already kiss closed her before this event. Then again, if you don’t have enough compliance to get a kiss close, you usually don’t have enough to have her come over, especially if she has to drive any distance. But I digress.
Find out what she’s making for you. Tell her you’ll get dessert. When she gets there, you tell her “crap we need xxx (ingredient)” for dessert. Or some other excuse to go to the grocery store. “There’s a store down the street. Come with me.” Take her to the grocery store, then stop by a starbucks or other fast stop on the way back.
The trip to the store does two things. 1) Time distortion, and 2) rapport behavior linking.
Time distortion comes about because of the now 2 new places you’ve taken her. It makes her feel like she’s known you for longer than she actually has.
Rapport behavior linking is when she links her behavior to situations in which she has rapport with someone. If you haven’t heard that term, it’s cause I just made it up lol. There’s no term for it that I know of, it’s just a general NLP concept I think. It works like this: When you take her out on a “date” to dinner and a movie, she psychologically considers it a date and starts putting rules on the night. No sex first date, give LMR, don’t be easy, etc. This is why we call them day2s or to women, “just hanging out.” Because we want to avoid date frame at all costs. It’s expensive, ineffective, and causes unnecessary LMR. But when you take a girl grocery shopping, it’s different because no guys do that. In fact, the only guys she’s ever done that with were boyfriends. She thus links the behavior (shopping) and the feelings (rapport) together. It kills two birds with one stone. If I haven’t laid a girl by a day2, this is ALWAYS my day3 plan unless logistics prohibit it.
So during this whole process you’re kino escalating gradually and playfully. A great tactic I discovered on a day2 a couple years ago is to fake a cell phone call (or have a real one) while you’re grocery shopping. It should be someone like your mom where she can’t get mad at you for picking up the call. While you’re on the call, start kino escalating with her under the “distraction” that you’re talking on the phone. In other words, this is where you can start rubbing her back or pull her into you when you’re standing in line at the register. It won’t be awkward because you’re distracted by the phone call. If for whatever reason she ever IODs you, just push her off like you would pick up a pen that you dropped while you were on the phone. The frame is “no big deal.” It’s pretty much never happened to me though. She always accepts the kino. It’s a great way to transition from playful kino to non platonic kino in the sarge.
So you get back to your place and she starts cooking for you. This is where you start helping out. What you haven’t told her is that you’re an amazing cook and you know what you’re doing in the kitchen (if you don’t, take classes). She’ll notice it when you demonstrate mastery over your kitchen. You start talking about food and cooking and how much you love to cook. You mention your favorite dish and how good it is. Describe it in detail and since she hasn’t eaten yet, it will make her mouth water. Do this while she’s in the middle of cooking. She’ll say every time “you should have cooked ME dinner then!” You reply, “well, let’s see if your is as good as you say it is, then we’ll see. If it’s amazing, I’ll cook you dinner when I see you next week.” You’ve just setup a day4. This helps with LMR because it inoculates against her thinking, “he just wants sex and he won’t call me after he gets it.”
Alcohol is also your friend here. Make sure you have good alcohol (grey goose is a safe bet usually) and pour both of you a drink. If you don’t drink like me, make yourself a tonic and lime. If she calls you out on it, tell her that you don’t like to get drunk because girls take advantage of you when you’re drunk. ( sidenote: A guy from the lair has a hilarious tactic here: Pour yours, taste it, and then tell her you don’t like it. You poured it “too strong” or something. Make her drink it.) Note that you DON’T want to get her sloshed. If she gets too drunk she’ll just pass out, or worse, throw up on you. Not sexy. “Tipsy” is the right state.
When dinner is over tell her you need time to digest before dessert. Throughout dinner you’ve been talking about the most hilarious video or whatever you just found (something in your room). You lead her to the bedroom and throw a quick FTC. Sit down on your computer chair and since there are no chairs in the place, she’ll sit on your bed. Of course, she can’t see from there. Tell her to come sit on your lap. This is a great compliance test to see where you’re at. If she does, you show her a few video clips on youtube you have saved (I have a whole playlist for this). Mine contains hilarious videos, interesting videos, and videos about facets of my identity e.g. Marines commercials . After a few of these, start smelling her hair and neck. Tell her she smells so good. If she’s not down to kiss you she’ll get off your lap at this point. If she stays, you’re good. Keep eye contact with her. This is important. Don’t break it. She’ll look for signs of weakness. Let the conversation die for a couple of seconds and just look her in the eyes. If she doesn’t IOD you or show avoidance behavior here, grab the back of her head and pull her in for a kiss. After a few seconds, break it off and say “that’s all you get for now” with a smile. If she mauls you, of course, feel free to escalate. When it’s really on girls will give you the signal that they’re ready. Otherwise, get up and tell her it’s time for dessert. Go in the kitchen and make an amazing dessert. I like warm, fresh baked chocolate chip cookies with ice cream, whipped cream, and a cherry on top. It’s stupid easy to make and it’s soooo good. In case you’re wondering, yes I did steal this recipe from BJ’s Brewery.
After you’re done put a movie on your laptop and lay down on your bed watching it. Don’t pick a REALLY good movie that you both want to see or it might take precedence over your escalation. Also don’t pick something so funny that it ruins the mood. I did this once. I love family guy and we were making out and escalating while it was on. But Peter Griffin started farting at Meg and I just lost it. In the throes of passion, I just started busting up laughing. Not sexy.
During the movie just escalate normally. Because you’ve already kissed her and been escalating the whole time, it should come fairly organically. If you’ve built enough comfort (which you should have over the day2 and initial meet and this day3), then you’ll get minimal LMR.
Here are a few hints to make things easier in end game:
Keep hand and face towels by the bed but hidden somewhere like a drawer. Same with lube and extra condoms. These all come in handy during and after sex.
The movie makes a great excuse to turn the lights off. Take advantage of it. Feed each other berries and whipped cream for dessert if you’d like.
Dominance is especially important in the bedroom. When in doubt, be dominant. Most girls (even conservative ones) like things like hair pulling, light biting on the neck, ear nibbling, and grinding. Every girl is different though. Try it and gauge her reaction.
While you’re escalating, give token resistance every time. You might not need it, but it’s better safe than sorry. It’ll never hurt you. When she starts moaning and you start escalating, say “You’re so bad. We should stop” but keep escalating. This preempts her LMR.
Last resort, do a freeze out. Never logic her when she stops you.
If you’ve pulled off a fast lay (same night especially), you’ll want to inoculate against post-sex ASD if you get the sense that the girl really likes you and doesn’t want you to think she’s a slut for putting out so soon. Philos taught me this when you wake up in the morning and it’s kind of awkward. Rather than try to butcher his technique, I’ll just give it to you straight from the horse’s mouth:
[After sex]
“Hey, um…don’t get creeped out or anything about this…” I began the routine, acting nervous “Wait, hehe, never mind, it’s stupid.”
“No, tell me!” Yeah she was definitely worried about me thinking she was a slut, the dumb slut.
“Okay, but don’t get freaked out or anything. I don’t mean anything creepy or clingy. It’s just weird. I usually can’t sleep well at all with broads. Like it took over a year before I even liked it when Kathryn (my ex) stayed over for the night. I don’t know, it’s cool though,” I feign a yawn, “I’m just really comfortable with you.” And I make a point to immediately focus on the task of looking for a t-shirt and not at her (which would make it too 90210ish for my taste, especially since it was all bullshit).
So there’s your day3 routine. I’ve never consolidated random end game techniques into one post until now. I know I’ve forgotten a ton of stuff but hope this helps some of you guys who are working through end game sticking points. No one really breaks down exactly what to do to make an escalation smooth. They just give you generic bullshit advice like “just escalate” or “kino more”. Hopefully I’ve given you guys some ideas or helped you visualize what to do on your next day2 or day3.
Try it out and see for yourself. As Sun Tzu says, “Every battle is won before it is ever fought.” Translation: Have a game plan.
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BRENT AKA "HOLLYWOOD"
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