Hey guys,

I'm currently in a relationship with a decent-looking girl I picked up at a uni dance (thanks to some stuff on this forum!). Everything's dandy except for the kissing. It's driving me insane!!!

From previous adventures, I know my kissing is bad. Every girl I've ever kissed has told me that (3 or 4). I just don't feel coordination in my lips and mouth and I don't 'get into it'.

It's getting really bad because whenever my girl's feeling smoochy, I can't give her what she wants, I just turn both of us off! It's so messed up and I feel it's undermining my manhood and it's a weak link in my game.

I'll provide more details if required, but i really want to know what someone else would to in my situation, or if anyone has had/is having the same problems. Kissing is supposed to be something that comes naturally, right? This is very confusing for me.

Thanks in advance for all the help guys!

MichaelAngelo

ok, I haven't tried this but this is what one of my girls says she does...and it makes sense.

just kiss the inside of your elbow lightly, a lot. that part of your body is one of the closest to your lips in sensitivity, so you can learn what feels good and what doesn't.

just don't get to rough with it(that could be a interesting story explaining the hickies on your arm.)

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I'm a good kisser. Been told this by a number of girls I've hooked up with. Here are some pointers.

1) Relax your lips. Let your lower lip become pliable for most of the kissing. You are the guy, so your lips will generally encompass (wrap around) hers throughout all of the kissing. Also, make sure your lips cover your teeth. You don't want the girl to feel your teeth at any time (teeth can be used later, but I guess you'd call that an "advanced" maneuver).
2) If you haven't kissed the girl much on earlier occasions then start off slow, meaning use very little to no tongue. Do this for a few minutes to warm her up.
3) When you do use tongue, be initially gentle. Probe her mouth with it until you find her tongue, then gently feel the tip of her's with yours. Soon your tongues will "dance" with one another.
4) As the kiss becomes more passionate, your tongue-play can become more forceful. This doesn't mean flick your tongue all over her mouth. It means you can more forcefully play with her tongue. You may end up in a "pushing" match with her tongue at some point. Its hard to explain what this is, exactly, but when it happens you'll know it. At this point you can also be a little more forceful pressing your lips against hers.
5) Once you've been kissing for a while, you can start to be a little more adventurous. Explore various parts of her mouth with your tongue (namely the vestibule between her teeth and her lips...very erotic). Interrupt the mouth kissing by kissing her neck and lower jaw. You can even suck a little (not enough to cause a hickey though, very important). The area at the top of the neck behind the angle of the lower jaw is very sensitive. If things are really heating up, you can even nibble on her earlobe a little bit.
6) Be sure to be using your hands the entire time. Hold the back of her neck, stroke her hair, face, and waist. While at her waist, put your hair under her shirt and stroke her bare skin. Eventually you make start to work your way up her shirt...

...that's for a different post.

-Esperanto

Hey guys, I haven't even gotten to frenching yet, I can't turn her on enough.

She's tried coaching me on my kissing, but her advice doesn't seem to help at all.

Even when she is in the mood, I can't match it because when I kiss her I can't get into it and satisfy her.

This whole thing is really getting to me. Is there any hope for me?

Dude if she's "coaching" you then she's interested. Take advantage of the coaching. Practice makes perfect. It's like Sarging. You can know everything there is to know about it but unless you actually go out and do it you'll never improve. Just practice on her until you become a pro and smoothly play it off by saying you were just joking and you wanted an excuse to kiss her.

Aristotle.

When it comes to kissing. I always let the girls lead. Just do what she does. Every once in a while I will take charge. Licking the lips, biting top or bottom lip, using tongue, run my tongue around her teeth, etc. I just do it for fun and I always get a laugh and then they pounce on me.

Kissing is fun. So relax and have fun with it. Everyone remembers their first kiss. You remember how tense you were. I hope your not that tense when your kissing. Try laying down on your back and letting her get on top of you to kiss you.

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Hesitation means Masturbation!

I went straight to frenching, it really isn't that hard after you get used to it :p

And take her coaching, you'll get better soon.

like the guys said...

she is interest, so.. take it slow..
basically the thing is creating comfort between both to kiss, but this isn't your case... you must create enough comfort in yourself to be able to kiss her as good as she wants you to.

i personally thought i was a bad kisser or in other words a non-experience kisser, with just 2 girls until lastweek... i thought i didn't have enough practice but last week i hook up with a girl, and then i realize i'm an awesome kisser, the main thing is to know what you are doing, i would recommend you to go to youtube and watch some kisses (lame but i think it may help) then imagine you and your gf, try to think how she moves.. and then try to imitate.. try with you eyes close and with your eyes open,
go slowly but not too much... just try to keep it natural...
hope you improve that skill, remember to believe in yourself.
gnight!

"The art of Kissing" by William Cane either in DVD or book form. If you can't find them (or are cheap) both are available freely if you know were to look. Pretty good guide with some advanced stuff to wow also.

On a related note I would recommend one other book related to mouth skills, I won't post it here but if you want the name I'll reply to a PM about it. Let's just say I have my own version of social proof and it involves the nickname "The Tongue God".

well for starts you are honest to yourself and that's cool,
but you need to shift your thinking to the next level...
what you need is to say, ok , i was a bad kisser till this moment, and now I'll do whatever it takes to learn more and be better at it. Don't worry about screwing it up!
Try to imagine girls falling on their asses when you kiss them.
and for everything else , esperanto agve you pretty good description.

well for starts you are honest to yourself and that's cool,
but you need to shift your thinking to the next level...
what you need is to say, ok , i was a bad kisser till this moment, and now I'll do whatever it takes to learn more and be better at it. Don't worry about screwing it up!
Try to imagine girls falling on their asses when you kiss them.
And for everything else esperanto gave you pretty darn good description

if i was you i would take the coaching, take it and make it fun, if she doesn't like the way you are kissing try a something a little different if that doesn't work try something new. french kissing is easy if you just don't spend the time thinking about it and just do it. and remember to always have fun with it.
once you are comfortable you are doing something wrong and can change for the better.

Esperanto, that was great east-to-follow advice for someone like himself who has little kissing experience.


Just relax your lips and take it slow. use this coaching shes giving you as your afvantage and just have fun with it.

If you think your bad, its probably the reason you are bad. Just try to have a positive attitude about it, if you think you're a great kisser, you'll become one. For the girls who said you're bad, have the attitude that they're the bad ones, not you. If you keep dragging yourself down or worrying about it, it will cause problems when the moment happens.

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The fact that you know you are a bad kisser, means you are thinking about it too much which is not helping you in any way. Try to think about it less and convince yourself that she is the worst kisser you have ever met. This technique makes you believe that the pressure is on her to kiss well and can result in her believing the same.