Hey guys,

I have been finding that recently it has been much harder for me to succeed on the dance floor. As a teenager, I was pretty good at picking up on the DF. I regularly got HB7s and 8s. 9s and 10s i always found really difficult to succeed with. The reason I was succesful is because I am a relatively good dancer with rhythm, and i'm not bad looking (I'm not bragging I just want appropriate advice for my situation). I used to just dance and if a girl showed me interest I would dance up to her and start grinding. It worked pretty well. But recently (I am now 21)...i have found it much harder to do this, even with lots of IOI's.

Typical example: last night I was in the club, getting my groove on. I start dancing and a 6 set walks in with a couple of really hot girls. I think they were Spanish or something. I start dancing I just ignored them at first like I always do...could feel the IOI's very quickly, the hot ones started dancing with their back to me....I thought I'd wait it out and then all of a sudden i get grabbed into the group by the hottest girl....I then dance facing towards them them. I go to approach this forward HB8...and she then very quickly parry's me aside and takes the whole group to the other side of the DF. Maybe I should have followed them, but it just seems way to needy to do so. So I just carried on and left the DF in a bit.

I then go downstairs to second DF. Do my usual thing...2 set give me IOI's so I lock eye contact with one point towards her whilst dancing... and she looks away and walks off with her friend. This move has worked so well in the past for me.

So then i try upstairs again.... because I want to preserve my social value, if one attempt on the DF fails, i try to find a different area...thats with fresh girls. same scenario again...this time i try to grind on the girl who has her back to me (definite IOI's)...same negative response.

So i just think fuck it, it aint my night. So I go and dance for a while by myself, on an elevated platform. This girl catches eyes with me who is a 6.5...keeps on staring...approaches me and says 'hey...I like you...and asks me if I wanto ta dance.' I find out she is Brazilian...which explains how forward she was. I dance with her, get her number, go home.

What I'm asking is. Bar VERY forward girls, how do I convert these IOI's into definite dancing opportunities. Once I get accepted I know exactly what to do. It's just the opening period, that is becoming really confusing.

Any clarity and advice on this matter would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

have you ever thought of maybe givin acouple mins in between the "approaches?" Try ignorin them alittle longer, boost your confidence up when u see them come in and start havin as much fun as you can possibly have, and not care what anyone else thinks.....keepin in mind that you've seen them, and you've noticed them, you're just waitin for them to notice you and more importantly, that you know how to have a good time and that you have something to offer (fun, spontaneous dancin, which is what 90% of women want at clubs)

or approach another group that you know you can get along with. have a blast and show your social value, all the while showin the group of targets what you have to offer to their group.


i'm a newbie to this forum, but hopefully you get something outta that. along with acouple fail proof lines and some alchohol, i'm sure you're gonna get someone to bend to your will and take what's yours. go get 'em pal.

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Thanks for the reply cornflakes.

Sorry if i didn't make it clear in the post...but all the interactions i talked about happened in the space of an hour. I was with friends at points...outside, drinking, smoking etc.

I think you are absolutely right about showing them you are having a good time. I always have a big smile on my face and there is no doubt in my mind that its because of my enthusiasm on the dancefloor that i can consistantly get IOI's. Its just how to react to these IOI's that I'm having trouble with. It seems like as soon as I acknowledge the IOI's the women lose interest.

Thanks for the encouragement and if you have any fail proof lines i could use on the DF, that would be awesome.

oh ok man. i'll be honest, i was readin pretty quick so i could of missed the fact that it was spaced out.


shit maybe you were right to start with, it might of just not been your night....the only way you'll find out is to go back out and do it all again.

as far as lines.....wonder over and "somehow" end up next to her at the bar, and just look at her, make eye to eye contact, and say somethin like "hey, you checkin me out is makin my girlfriend mad, and you need to stop" but say it with a huge smile and make it obvious that you're not serious....that should break the ice as long as she's interested....and if she's not, fuck her, she's the one missin out, not you. plus once she tells her friends about that interaction, theres a high possibility that one of her friends will start givin u IOI's next.


most importantly, remember, whatever girls ignore you, it's there loss, not yours. you should be happy; you just avoided a terrible relationship that most likely would have horrible sex or no sex at all. congrats!!!

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