I'm trying to get past anything remotely resembling approach anxiety so I can approach anyone anywhere anytime. I don't feel authentic telling a story about a girl-fight, etc. I'm a warm and friendly person, but I'm also very direct...so I think what fits me best is a very direct and natural (for me) opener...."You're cute, are you single?" said in a playfully matter-of-fact way.

I've tried it twice in day-game...here were the responses:

Me (to a 22 yr old HB8 who's already an acquaintance): "Ya know, you're cute...do you have a boyfriend?" The HB8 (smiling): "Ha ha...no, not really." Me: "Well, I don't have a girlfriend either, and I'm a musician. (I make a face that says "Can you believe that?") You know what you call a musician without a girlfriend don't you?" Her (laughing): "No, what?" Me: "Homeless". Big laugh from her, then I start walking away. She said "I don't believe you". I said over my shoulder "It's true!". Her still laughing as I walk off "No, it's not!"

I will be asking her to meet me out at one of my local haunts for a drink, me thinks.

I took my young daughter to dinner at a Chinese buffet that she loves, and a hot lady in probably her 30's and I caught each other's eye twice at the sushi section, so I touched her on the shoulder and said "You're cute...are you single?" She smiled and said "No, I'm married" and held up her hand with a ring on it. I said "Darned" and winked at her. She just looked at me and smiled, which I took as an IOI. I left it at that...I respect marriages and wouldn't pursue a married woman. (This was all out of my little girl's eye and ear-shot of course...I don't want to create any distress for her...attempting a pickup in front of her would.)

It feels totally comfortable for me to just come out with a very direct question that gets to the point. I'm thinking about advice I've read...how something is delivered is generally more important than what's actually said. I think I do well at delivering this opener with an "I'm curious about you" vibe rather than an "OMG you're hot" kind of vibe.

I'm going to keep using it and see how it goes. I think this one is just so simple and straightforward that I can just blurt it right out before I have any time to think about it and miss the opportunity to open.

Gruuve

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kudos. I like that. I really do.

Its simple and honest.

Kudos!

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Ah, that's some tight shit man. Played.

LOL...are you being sincere or sarcastic? I've tried it a few more times...no one's told me to f*ck off yet! LOL. It at least gets a smile, and an answer as direct as the question so far.

Cheers,
Gruuve

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ya man im a huge fan of direct openers. alot of the techniques of opinion approaches and similar situationals are becoming so overused by mystery method wannabe's that even ones that are original just get sniffed out. i've literally had a girl at a party say "are you serious ____ (the girls name)? go on youtube and type in mystery method, this guy is trying to pick you up"...

hence why i prefer direct openers

good one tho, def try it tomorrow at the mall

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I also go direct only. I don't feel comfortable making up stories or getting a quick opinion. They say its big risk big reward, i guess it boils down to whats right for your personality. I like the im curious line.

How did you come back from that? lol

*Not related to the topic* but still how would you come back if somebody called you out on PUA, never happened to me yet, but there is always a possibility, u neva know

V3nu

Good question. If I were called out on using canned MM material, I'd feel pretty embarrassed and would probably be tempted to eject from the set to save face. BUT...that's probably the wrong thing to do.

No one said it's "wrong", right? So, what IS a good response? Hmmm...for me, the right thing to do would probably be to just go direct at that point. "Are you trying to pull the Mystery Method on me?" (Or "are you trying to game me?", "are you a player?", etc.) At that point you might as well be direct..."Yes, I am. I wanted to meet you, so I'm using the tools I have handy. Wouldn't you?" OR maybe be cocky/funny..."Yes, I am. Looks like it's working." Since she's already familiar with it, or is going to look it up and become familiar with it, perhaps a topic to keep the conversation going is to then say "Come over here where it's quieter (dark little corner) and I'll tell you all about how it works." At this point, why not? You have nothing to lose.

I've been asked several times "Are you a player?" I used to give the AFC answer "No, I'm a nice guy" (because it's true). Now, I'll either answer one of two ways...either "I've never needed to be", or "Yes, I'm the worst kind...the kind women actually like". According to folks here, women knowing that you get laid a lot just makes most of them want to lay you too. Might as well take advantage of that.

Gruuve

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yah nice

In the forum on one of the topics I found a guy telling how he got away using a canned opener:
The girl calls him out on the opener
And he says: Yah me and my friends read the book and now are checking if this stuff actually works...I guess it is

Totally would use it and probably go direct after that.

In my experience when a girl tells me I'm a player or asks me if I'm
I usually explain the difference between a player who goes from A to S and me going from A to C to S
That usually shows them that I like getting to know the person before F* em. Which already in 3 different cases got me a: "OMG you are so different from all other guys"

V3nu

Cool thought...thanks man!

I opened one set last night where the girls where dancing around by offering them a tip (as if they were strippers...LOL), then proceeded to tell them they should tip me instead. I also opened another set with a girl who seemed quite reserved by just asking her if she was always this quiet. I think I'm getting better at situational openers...just trying to let what ever pops into my mind come out my mouth.

Gruuve

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Hahaha that's so C&F, how did they respond thou?

V3nu

The chubby one responded well...the hot one didn't seem to be phased by it.

So...was gaming a chick in the mall tonight...she worked at a kiosk and was helping me pick a Gothic-ish ring. We were flirting quite a bit...I asked her if she wanted to join me where I was going to meetup with some friends. She said "Are you trying to pick me up?" I said "Absolutely." She said "What are you after? Do you want to have sex with me?" I said "Maybe...we'll see." Then she said "I'm into girls, babe". I said "So am I...I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body". LOL. What I would do different in retrospect: Add something like "ya know, cool possibilities here...we could pick up other girls together, and then show them a REALLY fun time". Next time.

At a bar afterwards, noticed an HB7 or so who kept looking at me. Uncovered that she was there with (at least) a date. Managed to get a little dance time with her, and slipped her a card out of view of the date/BF/whatever...she was drunk (and I wasn't exactly sober myself), so I just said "Email me and I'll fuckin' hurt you". I think I saw the card lying on the bar though...don't know if she laid it down, or the BF/date took it from her!

Overall, I think I'm getting braver and braver about approaching...I just keep reminding myself "no matter what happens, it's no big deal", and just enjoying the process. After all, it IS a game, right? Games are supposed to be fun.

Gruuve

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I've used this direct "you're cute" opener several times.. I think it's a great opener, very direct and ballsy, and it can be pulled off great depending on how its said (playful and confident works). But the down side is that the girl will feel like she has the upper hand since you've already showed a lot of interest by admitting that she's cute, and they can just blow you off, especially if it's a HB10 who gets a lot of compliments.

But the good thing is most girls shouldn't react negatively to this opener unless they're total bitches. The worst I've gotten from this is the girl replying by saying something like: "uh, thanks!" and looking away as if she doesn't care/doesn't wanna talk to me. But there have been many times where this gotten a girls attention or caught her off guard in a good way. Haha bitchasses.

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I'm going back to community college next week for the first time in 2 years.. I think this would be a great way to open women I see walking/sitting alone on campus. If I say it from a "curious about her" perspective not coming off as flattering, girls would respond well to it, but if shes with other people I think they would dismiss it as blatantly trying to get at her and cockblock directly. Thats a forseeable advantage at college; because we are there for common reasons, approaching strangers is normal, and you can always find women walking by themselves, whereas anywhere else they are less approachable and typically in a closed minded group.

One thing though, what is something else I can say after "hey, I think you're kind cute" besides asking is she's single? I feel I would need something else to avoid the compliment-thanks-awkward sequence. Asking if she has a bf is a DLV, and I recognise relationships by feelings not statuses (99% of dating statuses don't mean shit/are extremely volatile).

Should I ask her what she is studying? What high school she went to? What Uni she wants to go to? Is that your natural hair colour? What time did you wake up this morning?

Or more random playful opening questions like "Do you like tomato juice?" "What's your favourite pizza flavour? "Have you even been to China?" "Does this sweater make me look gay?"

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i think in a uni setting asking "so what are you studying" and then you can continue the conversation with whatever she is studying

What about in a mall or general day setting "are you from around here?, so what do you do?"

I need to test this opener. I think if you say it with a smile and sort of nod your head as you say it, almost a surprised feel to it, it will work the best