| Overcome Hesitation
Stop talking yourself down like “She wouldn’t like
me”- instead, talk positive- “I’m the sexiest guy
she’s ever met”
Stop the self-defeating thoughts, “She’s out of
my league” and think the exact opposite,
positive thought, “I’m out of HER league”
Don’t think to yourself, “I’ve got to” or “I must”.
Just have fun meeting people- nothing takes the
pressure off like being playful
When you make a mistake with a women, don’t
dwell on it- everyone makes mistakes. Identify
the problem and avoid it for next time
That whiny voice inside your head that tells you
to stop or freeze; change it to the voice of a sexy
woman and your hesitation will vanish
When you find yourself hesitating to approach,
take a deep breath and allow a wave of
relaxation to go through your body
Eliminate nervousness & hesitation by watching
yourself from above in your mind. Notice how
you feel better, it’s that easy
When you fear approaching a woman, look at
the situation as if flying above from a thirdperson
perspective like watching a movie to
relax
Eliminate nervousness when talking to women
by focusing on HER rather than yourself; have
outward focus rather than inward focus
Expect your first opener to suck- it’s just a warm
up. It’s a throwaway opener. The throwaway
paves the way for that gung-ho state
The first approach is always the hardest
because you’re the most nervous- it’s often
lame. Successful approaching hangs on getting
past the first one
To get into the groove of talking to girls, ask a
few girls for directions like “Hey, where’s the
food court located?”
Being nervous on the first approach of the day is
normal- and everyday you start over again at
zero. The first one is always a warm-up
The worst has already happened- you’re not
with a beautiful woman. Doing nothing will only
result in the worst possible outcome
Adopt the mindset “There are thousands of
women- I practice to learn.” Don’t focus on
getting THAT particular girl, focus on improving
your skills
Don’t feel it has to go great with that one
particular woman- after all, there are 100 more
ladies standing in line for you to meet
If you place your hopes in one woman, you’ll be
a nervous wuss. If you place your hopes in the
great sea of women, you’ll be a confident king
Ditch the scarcity mentality. Your life is one of
abundance, with thousands of women to meet. If
one doesn’t work out, there’s another and
another!
Women want sex- they just want it with socially
valuable men. Have social value and you’ll have
nothing to be nervous about- women will chase
YOU
Don’t think about whether a woman is interested
or not- make her interested! Go ahead and talk
to her, you have nothing to lose!
Turn your fear into excitement. Women love
men who lead exciting lives and who do exciting
things. Your fear can be your advantage
It’s better to attempt great things and blow it
than succeed at meaningless things and just get
by- conquer your fears and you will always win
women
When you’re old you’ll be more disappointed by
the things you didn’t do, than by the things you
did do- meet women and live your life without
regret
Your past problems with women do not
determine the future. The past is over- it doesn’t
exist. Today you can accomplish whatever you
set out to
Real confidence is not just in being able to
approach a beautiful woman- it’s in being able to
walk AWAY from a beautiful women
He who hesitates... masturbates! And he who
acts opens the rainbow’s treasure
Don’t fantasize what can go wrong when
approaching a woman- deal with obstacles as
they arrive. Only practice makes perfection, not
nervous planning
Pining after one woman puts all of your eggs in
one basket- with so much at stake, naturally
you’ll be nervous. Instead, meet 3 new women
everyday
Fear of failure causes us not to approach- but
not approaching is the real failure. Conquer your
fear!
When you see a woman you want to meet, don’t
think about what you can get from her- think
about how incredible you can make her feel
Most people are slave to their fears. Be a man
and conquer yours. Beat your chest a little,
relax, and playfully approach that woman
You can’t think your way out of anxiety, so don’t
try. The only way to get rid of it is to get
experience approaching women
Like having stage fright, the first sentence is
always the most difficult to say. Just say “hi” and
you’ll feel better from there
Real confidence is not about being “bold” with
women. A truly confident man is relaxed
With women, you miss every shot you don’t
take. Even if you’re not sure how to take the
shot, just shoot and you’ll make some baskets
If you’re nervous, imagine yourself on the Star
Trek holodeck. Each approach is just one of
many holo simulations for you to practice on
Being prepared can eliminate your fear of
women- use the same canned opener again and
again- if it works, keep using it
Transform your fear of women into playful
anticipation- and you’ll enjoy the feeling. Soon,
you’ll be looking forward to going out
Your fears are hallucinations of the worst
scenario magnified. Imagine the best scenario
and glorify it- what you project is the reality you
will get
If you drink alcohol for “liquid courage” you’re
success becomes dependent on a crutch.
Master seduction on the strength of your own
two feet
To score with girls, detach yourself from the
outcome. Look to the long term process of
learning, not the specific event of the moment
Act like every day is your last day on Earth.
Screw the social norms. Screw your doubts.
With massive action you will get laid
What if you were to see fear with women not as
a distress signal, but rather as a signal for you to
experience a rush of relaxation and pleasure
Visually rehearse to rewire your brain for relaxed
confidence- imagine the pickup scene as a
movie in your mind where the best possible
outcomes occur
Using sheer willpower to banish your fear and
hesitation won’t work- your willpower is no
match against your years of bad habit. Practice
new ones
Being confident means having relaxed
confidence- so practice relaxing. Spend 15
minutes every day breathing deeply relaxed
Don’t look at approaching women as a task- look
at it as a fun game. If you see meeting women
as a chore, you’ll give up before you ever
succeed
Don’t just approach super beautiful women. You
learn relaxed confidence by talking to men,
women, and children young and old
Open women with only your head turned toward
them- that way, if they don’t respond, you can
just turn your head away and reject THEM
Men who take risks trigger attraction in womenbe
that man who takes risks and use that
attraction trigger to your advantage
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