| My favorite casual/natural sounding ice breakers with strangers. It’s important to recite these, visualize yourself using them in the correct scenarios. Then when actually approaching people stop thinking and be in the moment, and one of the appropriate lines should pop in your mind. I don’t deserve credit for coming up with all of these. some i read off this site. i also liked the "im awesome" opener i just read on this site.
Reading
Reading is making observations and then creating a topic of conversation out of that. When reading something about the group of people you are talking to there are two ways to do it. Either bunch all the group as one or pick out people in the group. Like the line used in the example below.
Loner
“You look spaced, you need intellectual stimulation”
Group
“you guys look spaced, you need intellectual stimulation”
outsider, other group or people in group
“she/he looks spaced, she/he’s not getting enough intellectual stimulation”
Group
When approaching a group of people it’s important to acknowledge all of them. Always refer to the group as “guys”. As in “how are you guys?”
“Hey!”
It’s important to make sure you get a persons attention before talking to them. If you start talking to them and they don’t realize right away it will lower your value. These feelings are inspired because their mind rationalizes “I wasn’t paying attention to them, I must not care”. That’s why you should always say “Hey” then follow with a short pause to make sure you have their attention.
“How are you?”
A lot of times it’s good to open with a “how are you?” just to break the ice with people, as more of a friendly acknowledgment. It’s not really intended to start a conversation. Simply respond with a “good” and ask them back if you haven’t already.
Icebreakers
Comment on when people look very mellow, plain, bored
“You look spaced, you need intellectual stimulation.”
Use this line sarcastically where congregate or on the contrary when a place is more vacant than usual, obviously this line would lose its sarcasm if you said it at a party.
“Having a party over/in here?”
Use this line if you’re at a party and the group looks like the coolest place to be
“looks like the party’s over here.”
Use this line on an all girls/guys group at more aroused parties, bars/clubs, and concerts
“Look at all you horny girls/guys.”
Use these lines when people look like they’re having a good time
“You look like you’re having a good time.”
Comment on girls playing with there hair, similarly you can use this when someone plays with there nails or taps there feet or fingers, etc.
“You like playing with your hair don’t you?”
Use this line whenever someone’s getting a lot of attention
“You look like the center of attention.”
Use this line when some people are relaxing
“You look way too comfortable.”
Sarcastically comment on when people look like there in an uncomfortable position
“You look comfortable”
Use this line when people are acting very confidently
“You look like you’re feeling confident about something.”
Comment on when people look busy or stressed
“You look like you’re thinking way too hard”
I use this line when people are working
“Having fun yet?”
Tease people who are suspiciously snooping around or just looking around somewhere remote
“sneaking around are we?”
I use this line when people are timidly laughing
“I hear nervous laughter.”
I use this line when there are all girls in a group
“Are you guys male bashing over here?”
Comment on a unique or appealing way somebody enters or approaches
“Smooth entrance.”
Shine the spotlight joined the group
“shh... he’s/she’s here, quite talking about him/her”
Use this line when one person is talking
“don’t believe a word he/she says.”
Tease people who are whining
(mimic in whiny voice)
Use this line when someone is leading a situation
“you’re doing a good job running things around here”
Sarcastically tease people who take the initiative to “make themselves at home” and move things around, set things up, etc.
“Make yourself at home.”
Tease someone who seems timid about doing something like moving something heavy or unsupportive, jumping over a puddle, reaching over something or for something on a high shelf, etc.
“Don’t do it... You’re flirting with disaster.”
Joke about people with cameras being your paparazzi
“that’s my paparazzi, they follow me everywhere I go”
Pick up any object that you can hold from your ear to your moth and act like it’s a phone
“hello... I’m not picking up a signal tell me if you get a ring tone.”
Tease people that are acting goofy or messing something up
“cut it out”
use this line when someone looks pissed
“you look friendly”
Casual
Loner
“You look like you’re up to no good”
Group
“Who’s being naughty and who’s being nice?”
Music playing
start dancing “let’s dance”
start air guitar “what’s the matter? Forget your air guitar?”
when somebody's playing music really loud
“somebody's rocking the lot”
Obnoxious/goofy
stick finger up noise say “what’s up” pull finger out of nose to give high five
me man, you women, let’s ugga bugga
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