Hey guys

heres the deal, at the mall near my house theres this really cute HB8.5
Iv been wanting to open her for the longest time but I dont know what to do or say!

She works in a lingerie store, so i really have no idea how to go about that :s
any advice?

also, I find one of my sticking points is after meeting new people, I tend to leave them wondering "nice! I just made a new friend" and not "damnn i want him, Im so lucky I just met him!!!"

advice needed
Thanks

Mack

I'm new to this, but can't you do the method that you tell her you need some new lingerie for a girlfriend or something and that you need some advice/info about it?
And then later you have to make it a more 'personal' convo, do DHV and maybe she'll see you're a great guy to hang out with.

I think that would be an easy opener, cause she works in the lingerie store and it's her work to help customers. You only need to make her see that you're more than just a customer.

Well, in my experience, the girls tend to be annoyed that we lied to them earlier and have no intention of buying anything (so in essence, wasting their time).

what kind of DHVs can I use?

TheMack

I have not tested this, but perhaps u wan to start of with a joke

"Do you have anything in my size?"

ok guys check this out. What reasons do you have to be in a victorias secret in the first place without being a pervert... or disqaulifing yourself? ( you could do the shopping for gf method but im really willing to bet that it wont work, ive tried, and if your shopping for your sister there thats just weird)

Sooo any ideas?

OK your going to a party where the guys dress as girls and your getin a cotume. This may sound dumb but Ive seen it work first hand and you dont look weird, perverted or your not disqaulifying yourself. Of course this is still a very tough one to pull off but this gives you a solid reason to even be in this environment and an opening to open her so to speak. God speed

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LOL that sounds good but do i actually have to buy some lingerie? :s

Ofcourse not , you could make some fun jokes while you're pretending that you're going to buy something.Be C&F and alpha and you could finish with any excuse so that you don't have to buy anything or come clean and say I actually already have my costume for that partybut I just wanted to come and say hi without looking all weird you know.

haha gameison nice picture.

and yes you dont actually have to buy anything. in fact come up with a story how you saw the perfect polka dot bikini at another store even lol

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LOL this

in this situation she obviously knows why you're there, theres no beating around the bush. try mystery's pez opener

Ok If she knows why your there why the hell would you go indirect? If she knows your there to hit on her then go right to the whole and tell her you like her and thats why yiou stopped in. Youve got to be congruent.

IF you want to stay indirect, which it sounded like he does, I really dont see many options other than the lingerie party.

BE CONGRUENT!!!!

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Lol Ace, Im obviously not a social retard... but thats what Im asking, should I BE direct or indirect for this one?!

thanks guys

My last comment was aimed at Leroy about saying how she knows why your there and then suggesting the pez opener. Sry if that came off as harsh though brother.

Whether you want to go direct or indirect is up to you BUT what I was getting at was pick one and go with it. Dont wander in the store without a reasonable excuse and then start throwing dumb opinion openers at her. If your going indirect you have to justify why your in that environment to begin with because you really have no buisness in there due to social norms. This is what I thought you were starting to ask in your origional question.

If you choose to go direct you dont need any reason to be on the store other than "I just noticed you and wanted to come say hi...transition" (or whatever youd like to use)

whichever way you go this is def a difficult situation so good luck. But again stick to one or the other. Dont have your body language be saying one thing your words saying another and your customer/buisness relationship with her thus far be throwing around all kinds off confused messages.

Make sense?

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Yeh it does! and lol dont worry mate, I didnt take it the wrong way.

What do you suggest I should transition with? I find I make alot of bad transitions. For example today i approached an HB at the mall, said hi, thought she was cute, and then didnt know what else to say so I just said smth like "so what are you up to?" Which was very AFC lol

help?

Mack

that opens a whole new can of worms that we can talk about all sorts of conversations skills and techniques. If your bad at transitioning into conversation do a little research on the matter. If you still need a crutch or are drawing a blank dont forget about routines. I usually never endorse the use of routines unless you need. But if you do need them then by all means thats what theyre there for.

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oh btw now im starting to get pretty interested on how this turns out. When you do go for it (and youd better after all this work lol) def write a feild report and let us all know how things turn out. Godspeed.

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