Hello guys,

The last 3 days I started to pickup girls. I did this with about 8 girls and they all rejected me.
What is wrong with me, and why do they reject me in the same way? Please help me to understand this.

There are a million & one pitfalls PUAs fall into that can rejection, so you'll have to give some more detail.

i dont know the situation or what u said or your body language. But if you walked up to the girls with a shy body language and no smile ur just reducing your chances of opening succesfully. Also its all about confidence, if u got good confidence then u got 65% of the game down right their. Confidence takes care of everything. Thats why whenever i go out i always make sure im looking my best because if i dont feel sexy then i just dont have the confidence but when im looking good the girls better watch out because i dont think anyone can touch me. But heres another thing. If you think you have lost then you already have, if you think you have already won then you have, If you think you are out classed then you are, If you beleieve u are inadequate then you are. So basically its all about the way you think, so change that mind set of your and make it a positive one where your thinking im the man and no girl is going to turn you down and they wont because ur frame is strong and they will smell ur confidence believe me women are good at figuring out if ur confident or not their experts at it. aight!!!!!!!!

I think u need to explain wht u actually said and HOW u said it, ALSO how u approached if ur approach was a bit too cheesy and u kinda got nervous ......girls bein excellent at spottin emotion will easily spot tht and there impression of u wont good but a bit desperate....(dont worry dude happened to me a couple of times when i 1st started)

if ur still nervous about approachin women practice on destroyin tht feeling, in my case i approached women (thanks to rules of the game neil strauss) in malls and asked them for help on the best DVD, clothes shop etc....slowly i began to get confidnet
....love your life and people will want to be a part of it, look down on yourself and no one will be there to join you

NOTE: remember when u approach, make sure u work on ur nerves, see it as "hey this is fun lets see wht happens" rather than "lets see if they accept me" or "leme try seducin these bitches"

in the end u may say the same thing but ENERGY tht u release can be negative if its in the wrong attitude

Good luck dude

Green_Eyes What you say is what exactly happened, it seems as if you are reading me like a book, and I think this is the most common situation.
I always get the feeling that they are going to reject me, and when I feel that they like me I feel nervous and do anything to close the talking. When she ask me a question about what I already asked I feel that this is a rejection.

This is exactly what gets me in trouble. I have low self confidence and I always feel that I'm a loser and a beautiful girl will never deserve me.

I'm a desperate guy...

Cmon now , you think every single one of us never got rejected and always succeeded with our openings ?
Compare Picking up girls to riding a bicycle , if you fell off that bike did you gave up on trying to learn how to ride that bicycle ? No , because you knew that you were going to ride that bike perfectly at one point.
Mastering picking up girls is a learning process with ups and downs , the fact that you have been trying to pick up girls is already a positive thing.I knews tons of people that can't even get close to a girl like that.You just need to adjust your mindset.

Your mind set should be
I'm the coolest dude in this club.
Nothing can touch me.
and so on I think you get the idea.
In order to improve your game and get rid of rejections you will have to improve your mindset and confidence.

All the best

GameIsOn, thanks so much, you really inspire me and give me the hope I really need. I stareted to feel desperate. When I read about picking up girls, I always read that I should try, and then I tried 8 times and failed. It let me down, but I'm going to try again tomorrow and see if I could succeed. But I really have a question: The girls like guys to approach them, so why do they reject them?

Man, you started 3 days ago! Just knowing the game is not enough, you gotta feel it. It takes time! I was rejected by at least 50 sets before my first full close! I have been rejected by so many sets that I have lost count! Its in the three hundreds at least.

Do I think that it makes me a bad PUA? He he, hold on, did I just ask that? My delusions of grandeure tell me.... NO!!!! Of course not! It makes me great! We got to have the balls to fail! To try out new things! We learn more from our failures than from our successes! We calibrate what works and not! I would not be where I am today if I hadnt failed utterly and miserably the first period! If I would have given up because it was hard! If I would have stopped trying because the results didnt come immediately I would still be the same guy with the same results that I have got my entire life. Bad ones!

Your successes will come! Believe me! You just need practice. And the secret to learn this is to not lose hope just because everything you do fails! Eventually you will feel what works and not! EXPERIENCE!

You're more than welcome
There are numerous of reasons for them to reject someone.

1.Energy
How's their energy ? If they're having a great time you should open them as if you're having an even greater time.If they're not very amused you'll need to jump in with positive energy to make them feel amused by your company.
You need to equal or top their energy levels , if one comes in with less energy than the set has they find it a reason to reject you so that you wont spoil the fun.

2.Observer/The observed
You need to be the observed instead of the observer.This can be done in a few different ways;
You could perform a really cool but simple and natural magic trick so don't pull out a deck of cards while you're opening a set , this will be seen as weak and tryhard.
Learn a cool trick like the scarf trick is a really great trick to perform in a group or learn something that lets your vanish some object and make it reappear.
If you're the one observing and listening to their conversation you're seen as weak and they will reject 'cuz someone obsering your convo is just weird.

3. Social proof
How many friends do you bring along to the club? Are they males or females?Few think this is all crap but it actually has a fair influence on your game of that night.For instance when someone enters with a HB10 and he's walking the line ( arm in arm walking to the bar ) and he's giving everyone a look , people will all wonder who's that guy with the HB10 ? Instead of entering with a male friend will be nothing special , don't get me wrong it's not that if you don't enter with a hot female friend that you'll be rejected all the time.The female friend just gives you a slight boost over all the other people at the bar.If you're all alone just open with somethinng like 'I lost my friends' then routine in 'Remember when we were young and we could just run up to someone and ask will you be my friend and you would be friends' 'So will you be my friend ?' If you're seen alone throughout the night you're DLV and face a rejection more often.

4.Social Value
If you're sarging at the same bar everytime , you need to get to know as much people as possible.Get to know the jocks , the jerks , the nerds , the hot babes , the bartender , anything.So that if you enter and you happen to see a HB10 your social value will be through the roof since people will say "hey" to you spontaneously , people will smile as you enter.If this is not the case you want to pull out your bag of tricks meaning that you'll have to open a set of just random chicks ( no male preferably ) and #close them or email close them or whatever but don't pull out your phone.Make them write it on a piece of paper on your back or something or grab out a cameraphone (if you have one) and take some pictures with them hugging , kissing you on the cheeck.This will be an eyecatcher and will most likely raise interests of sets you want to open.
If your social value is low this is a reason to reject you.

5.Behaviour
Don't let anything touch you.You're cooler than the muthafuckin snow on my driveway.You are the shit.
IF AMOGS make fun of you
1. Ignore
2. Laugh and give them a stare like 'Yeah you're pathetic'
3. Give them a pad on the back and say 'You have alot of confidence , I respect that.
4. Laugh with them Ex: Did you buy that jacket in a carpet store? No it's actually from my grandmothers sofa , she will have to sleep on the floor for a while now.
Note: If you attempt to do is make sure that it'll make the HB's laugh else it'll be DLV.
5.DON'T EVER , EVER GET ANRGY OR INSULT ANY OF THEM this will automatically disqualify you as you will immediately DLV and be seen as weak.You're way too cool to let insults get you down.

IF HB's make fun of you
1. Ignore the comment

If you're going to start an argument with them they'll reject you faster than a Bugatti veyron trust me.

I think I covered the main parts here.

Solid post by GameIsOn imo..

maybe you could write down a situation in which what you said got rejected and we all can try to give you advice on how to step your game up?

You could also read some articles about how to build up your confidence level and how to show to other people that you ARE a confident guy and THEY should be afraid to get rejected by YOU!

I have some e-books on building your innergame if you like.. pm me and i'll send em to you.

In a few months u WILL be a confident person! It's been only three days that you've been trying so keep in mind that:

Good timber doesn't come with ease
The stronger the wind
The stronger the trees

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Even without knowing what you did, I already guessed what your problem would be - the main reason girls reject guys is they sense they are not strong, inside. That's a primal requirement for a girl.

Then you explained your thoughts and that's exactly what's going on.

What you have to do is work out a way of doing things that lets you not care about the outcome of the conversation.

Find the most beautiful girl, ask her the time - say thanks, and then walk away. That's your plan from the beginning, so you don't care how it goes. Do it enough times that you're not scared of it anymore. See how differently it feels and how differently you behave.

Then when you go out, it's best to have some other way of having fun while you're out, so you're not concerned about how things go with girls.