We've all been there. You're a regular at the store, you've noticed this beautiful woman working there........

Yea. She's so beautiful that my heart races and I get all befuddled and don't know what to say or do. However, she always makes eye contact with me, and a couple of times she was acting ambiguously. No, I'm not staring or creeping her out. I'm cool and natural. Forget about the 3 second rule in this scenario.

Anyway, I'm a proponent of the natural approach. I've had very light "do you know where the such and such is", conversations with her. All before I started getting serious about my game, reading books, checking out this forum and attacking my profound AA.

So, I haven't noticed her at the store for a while, but today she was there. Didn't expect to see her, and quite by accident we made a good strong more than a few seconds eye contact, and she looked away first. So, I got in her checkout line and said hello, haven't seen you in a while etc. (she explained why she wasn't there for a while). I chatted her briefly about simple small stuff. Then I said to her, "I've seen you in the store before" and I introduced myself. She told me her name and we shook hands. I wished her a happy holiday.

Ok, so that was the best I could do. I finally got the nerve to introduce myself and learn her name. She was workin the checkout register, so I only had a matter of a few minutes. I kept it natural, and now I feel I could have established a familiarity base - disarming her- gaining possible friendship, first name basis, in a natural way. Hoping for random chance running into her at the store again. My plan is if I can get to that easy going chat friendship level, I can ask her out.

She is a very beautiful very confident woman, and I admit to being a little intimidated. Her body language is ambiguous, but her voice and conversation reveals nothing. At the very least, I'm proud of myself in general for trying, and for finding out her name. A major milestone for this AA victim lol.

Regardless, I'm not completely stuck on this babe. I continue to work on my AA in other shopping scenarios. I'm confident in my appearance and have always considered myself attractive. All my life women have acted ambiguously around me. It's just that I never knew what to do to act upon this, and even if I did, I didn't have the balls. So I would just do nothing. That's right. No one told me that it's the guys job to make the move, go get it, etc. I find it amazing that evolution has boiled down to women as the receivers of advances and men as the pursuers.

So I'm working on this. Today I was at another store crowded with women during the lunch hour. So I was just hanging out reading labels in the isle, and I could feel women mosey on up as if to look at some item on the shelf next to me. Yea, ambiguity. So instead of doing nothing, I look the women in the eye and strike up conversation----totally natural---"oh excuse me, am i in your way? " Then progressing to: "have you tried that product?" or "wow, this store is crowded!" etc. I've had mostly favorable responses. Now I just have to work on a closer - getting contact info etc.

I hope some of you can relate to this. I'm enjoying this challenge and self-discovery.

This is a great way of making yourself more social and less prone to AA I too try to do stuff like this as much as possible, as I'm severely lacking when it comes to cold approaches. I'm much better with semi-warm (like a friend of a friend) or warm ones (some girl you've briefly chatted with before). But one thing I have to warn you about regarding your shoe store babe... Try not to be too "friendly" with her. If you don't flirt, banter, tease etc early on, it's difficult to just do it out of the blue later (or at least do it and get a positive reaction). I usually just introduce myself and say something random (like commenting the weather) in that kind of "first real contact with somebody you've seen around" situation. Make her smile, or even better laugh, then just give her a wave and walk away.. Leaving her with a good first impression. Next time I meet her I pretty much act like I already know her, and try to get as much banter/flirting done as possible.. while also doing some light kino. I know this isn't the most exciting (or effective) stuff to use, but in day game I've noticed it gets results even while you're still working on your AA Plus, it comes really natural to me. I can do it without feeling like I'm pretending to be somebody I'm not