Ok, so I understand that staring is an IOI. I seem to notice MANY chicks 'staring' at me. Or at least, in my mind they do. I can't help thinking that I'm just reading the situation wrong and that they're maybe looking at someone behind me, or in my general direction, or for some other reason and I'm just being paranoid and misinterpreting it. I just know that if I try to open based on this the chick will think I'm crazy and full of it, like I'm just expecting people to be staring at me or something like I'm hot shit. It'd be different if it was obvious and in a situation where it's just me and her, like a party or something, but usually I'm in crowded spaces like on the train or in lectures or in public. I suppose we're talking Day Game here.

How do you tell what an actual stare is? Is it best to just take it with a grain of salt and not call the girl out on it, I.E just use an unrelated opener? I can see this being a massive rejection if you go "why are you staring?" and they'll be "yeah right, why would I stare at you?" with a disgusted look on their face.

Man, this crap's SO hard!

Yeah it really is difficult to judge what to do in situations like this. Cause she could be staring past you, at something else, or whatever, and your mind just tells you "Dude! Shes looking right at you! She fuckin wants it!"

Thats your ego talking, most likely, but it might not be wrong. In fact, it is probably right. There are a couple things you could do to see if she actually is staring at you.

• 1. Stare at her. Thats right, stare right back at her, right in the eyes. See what she does. Or, if you don't want to make it that obvious, look a bit past her, see if she notices. If she does, she was looking at you.
  
  2. Call her out on it. This is usually what I would do. You are not being cocky if you do this with a sense of humor, your being cocky funny, which is encouraged! Do it playfully. Step up to her and be like:
  "Staring is rude, didn't anyone ever tell you that? Well, let me be the first."
  "You do have nice eyes, but looking at me that long is making them get boring."
  "Staring contest? Alright, how long has that been on for?"
  See where I'm going with this? None of these are immediately cocky, cause your not really bringing YOUR looks into this, but she will indirectly see confidence in you, and thus a sense of value. Another routine you could do is kind of turn around and look behind you awkwardly, then look back at her and say
  "What are you looking at?"
  This is a use of cocky comedy and simple routines. These will usually get her laughing and open her up whether she was staring at you or not. But usually if you think shes staring at you, then she is. Its like intuition.

Hope it helps!

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Interesting. Although, in reality I won't be able to use these openers yet. Confidence sucks. Unless it's a purposive opener that I have some reasonable explanation for using, I just can't at this point. It's just good to know if a chick is diggin' it for confidence building. That's all I'm aiming for, I suppose, as I realise I'm nowhere near ready yet.

Cheers.

Alright thats totally fine, it takes time to build your confidence. Rome wasn't built in a day, as they say, and this holds true for confidence too. Take baby steps.

Like the stylelife challenge teaches, try approaching strangers and just initiating and opening with small talk. Forget game for the next few days and just meet new people and talk about anything. This will build a strong foundation for confidence.

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Hey everybody this is my very first post! I'm still very much an AFC but i like to think that "cocky funny" openers and mid-game are my calling.

Sharplin is spot on dude. Those three openers are GOLD. You can say anything to a woman as long as you've got a big smile on your face.
Sometimes, with really feisty chicks, this can backfire, but NEVER back down and never lose the smile off your face.
I'll tell you a story.

Once upon a time i was in a pub with some mates having a few drinks as you do. One of my friends is talking to this really short chick. I walk over and interrupt their conversation and, with a big smile on my face, the first words out of my mouth are "Wow, you're really short!" I say this while crouching down so that our faces are level with each others.

She starts yelling at me "yes i know i'm short OK...". She does this for a little while.

NEVER back down. When she stops for a breath I ask her if she likes working for Willi Wonka? Her jaw drops but i don't stop. I take my phone out of my pocket and fake a quick phone call. After i hang up i tell her it was Santa Clause and that he said she was due back at the workshop hours ago.
ALL WITH A BIG SMILE ON MY FACE!!

This gets me that playful girly slap on the chest (this is an IOI).

Tell the girls that stare at you that You'd love to have a staring contest but you're afraid they'll get lost in your eyes and that you don't want to see their face on a milk carton.