hello there,

Needless to say, I'm one of the 99% of men who has AA .
Today in the subway I found a very attractive girl. Her stop was before mine, she left and I didn't want to regret not talking to her so I followed her. Then on the street -in less than 3 seconds- I said excuse me, she looked and I said "Hi I'm <myname>", she said "oh hello, I'm scarlett" and she shook my hand. (BTW: English is not my first language)
Then I don't know what happened, I freaked out and don't know if I even said a complete correct sentence, it was something like that "umm.. the reason I'm asking is because you look like someone I recognize from my country, never mind", she said "ah that's ok, have a good day" and she walked. She was nice, strangely I became more relaxed, happy, and more willing to retry on someone else.

I think that doing small exercises by talking to as many girls as possible even for few seconds will help me overcome AA. I will try that tomorrow, but I need more convincing openers so I don't feel stupid while approaching and a way to get out ASAP, I don't need to do routines or chit chat, just in and out.

I'm sure someone thought of that before, anyone have ideas for small exercises like this ?

There are a few "newbie missions" around... Im gonna present them and then Im gonna give you my opinion ok?

Style challenges people to start conversations with strangers, anyone, men, women, guys, girls, anyone.
Someone, told people to dress up in ridiculus clothes and get used to humiliation.
Tyler told people to tell people that they were from Mars and ask for their favorite bowlingball flavor.

That may work if you really need that kind of thing.

My opinion, you already started. Stop caring about the outcome, so what, some people think that you are strange, a loser, scary, patethic, cute, sexy, pich one. Why should you care? Their only value is to help you kick AA!

Kicking AA is not a training sequence, it is a choice! You can choose to either approach or dont approach.

If you choose to not approach you have chosen that your personal comfort is more important than learning to approach people and improve.

Once you realize that kicking AA is more important than almost any kind of humiliation, you can approach anything.

I used a trick when I started out, I saw it as a game (which it is). It was fun! I didnt take any of the sets serious. I even opened a dog and later merged into the set. I stood there talking to the dog for 5 minutes and then asked him to introduce me to his human.

What I've been doing is what I personally reccomend

I have made a commitment with a friend, each day I pick out a colour and every person I see wearing that colour I have to give a hi five and introduce myself (both guys and girls)

“The Truth About Approach Anxiety”

by Cory Skyy

Guys often ask me, “Cory, how do you teach your students to get over approach anxiety?”

The answer always amazes them.

“I don’t. There is no such thing as approach anxiety.”

I’ll admit it. I lose a lot of guys at this point. They think I’m crazy. Problem is, they’ve read reams of articles and posts by “community” guys on the internet and nothing—absolutely NOTHING—will convince them that there is no such thing as approach anxiety.

“Approach anxiety” is not a medical or scientific term. It was invented by the community to identify the feelings of nervousness guys feel when about to approach an attractive woman.

Well, I’m here to say that it’s all a bunch of B.S.

Even though many guys think I’m full of it when I say this, I don’t care. Because the ones who really “get it” stick around to hear what I have to say. This is the 2% who are willing to hear something different and aren’t brainwashed by a million internet posts.

These guys usually become my best students. They’re willing to think outside the community box and take chances on something that actually requires them to put in some effort.

Truth is, what I teach is not easy. It’s not for the faint of heart. It requires dedication, determination, persistence, and practice.

But the fact is, once I’m done with a student, he doesn’t even recognize the phrase “approach anxiety”.

When you walk through the world as a confident and powerful man… a man who drips sexuality everywhere he goes… you don’t need to approach. You don’t need lines. You don’t need hypnotic phrases. You don’t need routines.

It’s true. Attraction is the most normal gift given to all of humanity. It’s been around thousands of years before the first pickup “guru” wrote a post on the internet.

It’s within you right now. You were born with it.

So what’s the problem? It’s that society has taught you to hide the sexual giant that resides within you. We have been conditioned by B.S. “rules” that teach men to be whiny butt-kissers. When it comes time to actually exude some sexuality, the “rules” kick in—causing a conflict in our brains.

That’s where the anxiety comes from.

For example, I personally have zero “approach anxiety”. When I walk into a bar… heck, when I walk into a supermarket… women are immediately checking me out.

Any one of them are willing to talk to me so I don’t even need to walk up to them and start talking. Even in the supermarket, I can get them to hover near me by communicating sexuality through eye contact. I never even think about approaching.

This is what I teach my students.

And it’s powerful. Two years ago, if you told me I’d be teaching guys how to do this I would have said, “No way! You can’t teach that. You either have it or you don’t.”

But the results I get—from guys who initially thought I was full of B.S.—are stunning. I myself am constantly amazed at how many seemingly-hopeless guys can transform themselves from shaky balls of anxiety into men that drip sexuality… with just a little coaching.

Learn how to awaken the sexual giant within and you’ll forget what the phrase “approach anxiety” even means.