this was a opener i was using i just tryed it 4 times to 4 dif woman on a night out in a bar.
me..i need a quick opinion on some thing it wont take long cause i have to get back to my friends in a sec
them..wat is it?
me..do you think it is desparte if a girl approaches a guy at a bar?
them..no
me..no the reson why im asking is because i have a have a female friend and she is really shy about approching a guy that she likes at a bar and by u saying it is not desprate ill tell her u said no and hopfully this will boost up her confidence.
im going to do neil strauss ring routine after that
i need a persons opinion if its an ok opener?

Sound ok.

How anout changing the second line to:

"What do you think about girls approaching guys in a bar"

They will give a longer answer then 'no/yes/maybe' and get involved more in the convo.

This could be good in a mix set too, getting the guys opinion too and aasking them how they would feel if a girl rolled up to them.

Make sure you also have your opinion ready, which might sound like ' Yeah, that's what I told her. I mean when girls walk up to me, it doesn't bother me either'. Makes you sound preselected and all.

Cheers!