Hey guys,

this is more for day game than anything else. because it isn't such a big deal on night game but lets say you are in the supermarket and you approach and the babe, in spite of seeming really "available" shuts you down and gives you major IODs or rejects you. Thing is I see now that my sticking point is that I don't give myself chance to get in there half as much perhaps waiting for the "right" moment or also cos I don't want to be rejected. So I was wondering what attitudes for inner game might help me realise that it is no big deal cos I think if we weren't so panicky about getting rejected then maybe we would be more relaxed and have more chance of seeming OK and like a laid back, fun kinda guy.

I have heard a few good attitudes to keep in mind from this site,
"Rejection is mind over matter- I don't mind cos you don't matter."
The one by Ross Jeffried, that goes something like, "she didn't reject me, she just showed that she doesnt have good taste"

what is your recovery method when she has lost that lovin feeling?

Its all about the inner confidence. Really. You probably know that - but not to get too Tony Robbins on ya, but you have to believe in yourself. It seems like you are trying to "fake" a good inner attitude.

I know the feeling. Key things. Relax, and TRULY go into it with nothing to lose. Don't let the fear overcome you. So what if she rejects you! You were one of the 500 guys who wanted to talk to her who actually had the guts to do it. Celebrate the victory and move on.

Style mentioned in his book 'The Rules of the Game' that the word rejection is misrepresented. To reject means to "refuse to accept". So if you offered someone a stick of gum and they said no. Would that cause you to feel an emotional sting like if you approached a female and she rejected your advance.

Of course not.

The fear of rejection can never be eliminated. However, it can be diminshed. It's all about your limiting mind. How can someone who doesn't even know how great you are have decided that she doesn't want you. Why do you attach so much emotional baggage to what a complete stranger thinks of you?

So, you need to begin eliminating your negative internal dialogue. Make it quieter and further away in your mind. The other part of your mind, the freedom mind, should have a strong, calm nearby voice that speaks to you.

You should attempt to overpower the images of failure in your limiting mind with the successful images of your freedom mind. Thus, picture a set opening up and you winning over everyone in the set. Don't think about them all rejecting you and telling you to leave. So think about being adored not ignored. Think of the woman putting her number into your phone. Make the images of your limiting mind, dark, blurry, distant, small. If they appear replace them with colourful, sharp, bright pictures of successful encounters. See them with your own eyes.

Thanks to Neil Strauss for the above, it's a very useful book to have. You really need to work on inner game to get ahead.

Are you comparing Me to a stick of Gum?
ROTFLMAO!
Sorry man, I just couldn't resist that, but honestly it's just in fun bud!
To quote Sinn "Reacting More = Less Social Power" and letting any girl's so called "rejection" get to you is letting her suck your Power away. Don't give her that!

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