It wasn't long ago I was giving tips to people on game, but now its very different. I got over my approach anxieties in my first year at uni, i made say 10 approaches before I got lucky and had a girl approach me and i ran my routines and got with her. For some reason then i stopped approaching and a year later i got with a long term girlfriend, who was one of those i approached in my first year... we split up 7months ago now and i haven't got anywhere since. Iv had girls going out with my mates tell me they love me so my raport and energy is good, i just can't open.

The way I got over it before was the what have i got to lose approach, but that thought process doesnt work anymore. I know i have nothing to lose, its the social awkwardness i cant get past... i feel like its not normal to just walk up to a girl and start chatting. I feel like i need the most obvious invite ever, cos even when im getting looked at repeatedly i feel awkward about walking up to someone.

help...i've been out of this too long!

how did you start? by reading "The Game"?

have you tried to re-start it? (read it again, follow the forums, etc)

Hello. Start off small and work up.

Whenever you see a fit girl ask for the time. That's it. Then once you've done that about 20 times, try expanding: do you know what time it is? Hey cool watch, where did you buy that from, etc.

Are you from around here?
Do you know any accessory shops in the area? I'm trying to figure out what to buy my friend! What would you recommend.

Then you might want to replace that with openers. etc etc.

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hey guys. thats good solid advice, thanks. I have re-read the game and keep hitting the notice boards again hence why I'm here. I usually get wrapped up in my work and don't give enough time to it then have a period like this when I'll come back for help. Also its not so much the fear of rejection or being a bit socially inept that gets me, its more that im too aware of the situation and they know im on the pull.

The idea of building up is a good one. Thats something I might try, I have no problem chatting to bar staff or asking hot girls things (in fact i have many hot friends that i ask all sorts of stuff that most people wouldnt) and they think nothing of it... so why not make up a scenario?!

Well guys you have just proved that you can always trust a pua to be reasonable.
Thanks
Anymore advice is welcome...

Approach. What else is there to say? Do it or don't - there is no in between.

Currently, there is no approach because a lack of inner game. There is no inner game because you don't see improvement. There isn't much improvement because there aren't approaches being made. The answer - approach. Who care if you fuck up, thats how I learned and Im glad I messed up in the ways I did when I first began.

Do not become book smart and have nothing to show in reality where it is supposed to be executed. Avoid false scenarios in your head (good or bad) because you can easily form unrealistic expectations.

Just approach .

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You said you have problems approaching.

Start out small. In the grocery store say hi to people walking by you. Ask a random person which product is better. Do the same thing just in other situations.

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i had pretty bad AA aswell. But i got over it on my first approach which was with 4 set of 8-10. Usually i would never have approached them but i had a friend egging me on and i though f*ck it i only live once and went for it. The feeling i got when i openned with the jealous gf line was amazing as they responded. Whenever i think about openning i just think of that amazing moment. As your coming back into the game you should be able to remeber some great moments too.