Allright, there's this incredibly cute girl that goes to the saem club as me and my friends do. I've 'caught' her looking at me for the past two weeks now, and I stayed cool. I couldn't approach, partly because I got AA but especially because some of my (female) friends in the group are still friends with my ex. The relationship finished about a week ago, so I don't want to be too eager to pick up girls.

Anyway, normally we only go out on fridays at this club (it's a street with some bars next to each other), but tha day after I went to the bar next door with just 3 friends, so I could make some moves. Now we were outside for a minute and I saw her coming out of the bar. I hadn't noticed her, because it was crowdy.
Now, I was like right in front of her, so it's impossible that she didn't see me when she came outside, but she didn't even look and just passed me by. She was wearing high heels, and man oh man was she shaking that perfect ass when walking away.... And you all know how men can be little boys sometimes: wanting what they can't have. So now I'm even more interested in her. She's obviously playing a game here.

anyway.. I wanted to approach her but she left really quick with 2 of her friends and I didn't really get the opportunity. I didn't want to look foolish by chasing her.
Normally she'll be there again on friday, so I might just approach her.

Now my question is, by searching some friend lists on facebook, I found her profile. I can't see it if I'm not a friend. Now I'm very tempted to request friendship, I'm sure she'd accept it.
First of all I'd like to see her profile etc...
But especially it could really make the approach easier. If I approach on FB no-one will notice, and I'll be able to approach her IRL as a 'friend', it will make the opening much easier.

Now my sensible side tells me I'd better not, because I mgiht seem to eager, and that I should play the game along. I should probably make myself an object of lust for her, and by requesting her friendship I really undermine that and admit I'm interested.


I know it sounds stupid, but what do you guys think? Should I add her to my friendlist?

I would say no, don't add her as a friend.
First of all, I think it's just creepy to friend someone you haven't talked to and don't really have a common ground (i.e. school, work, etc.) that you share.

If you are already sure that you WANT to approach her, then just do it next time you see her.
By trying to friend her on facebook first, you're not really displaying alpha characteristics and are probably gonna come off as needy.

She's also probably gonna be like, "how did he find me?", and if she's asking herself that, you're definitely giving up too much of yourself up front.

Just open her up and run some tight game on her next time you see her. That's probably the best way to do this.

You shouldn't substitute Online Game for going out in field and getting this girl!

Online Game is really meant to be used on the side but still going out and meeting people in the traditional way. The reason for this is simple. Because eventually when you two meet up you'll need the skills you learn while out on the dates.

I know you have AA but it'll be best to approach her in real life.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

Hey man, I used to have AA and plenty of it too.
I used to try my way around it and never got nowhere, there is not way around it.
You gotta work on it and this is a great opportunity.
Outside the bar, when she was standing next to you, if you noticed her, most probably she noticed you first (girls do, I've learned)
She used proximity (IOI) and shook her ass for you (DOV, lol) but you missed your three seconds rule and had to watch her living (well, at least you probably didn't seem needy).
Next time you see her, give yourself no time and go for it.
Here's what I use to do for AA (I'm no Pua though, more of an other ex AA aflicted AFC, but still Afc).
I'd go down the main road with a trusted friend. I'd walk with him and instruct him to look around and pinpoint each time the location of the closest girl to us. He would say 5 o'clock, 7 o'clock and so on
(I can still remeber my mate, once, going "10 to 4!". What?)
Each time I would breath in, count to 3, turn around while saying:
"I really like your....", then, actually look at the person and name something they're wearing, "your hat! your jumper! your shoes! your walking stick! whatever!".
Whatever really, and then say "I wanted to buy one for ...however"
DOESN'T MATTER WHAT THEY ANSWER
The point is you don't know what you gonna say you like until the very last second. This should improve your immagination, eye for details, improvisation, and especially AA.
Damn, I just realised how long this reply is. well hope it was worth it.
Dynamo

Thanks guys. Well it's not really a serious case of AA. I don't have any AA to approach a girl I've never seen before, but with this one it's been built up too much. I see her almost every weekend, and I really think she's cute, so I don't wanna jynx it.

But I haven't added her on FB. I'll go up and talk to her on friday. Now, should I really be prepared with canned openers etc..? Or should I just go talk to her and see what happens?

Just go see what happens, but keep your rutine just in case.
I would use an opener to start with though, there is nothing wrong with that, and what is the point of learning if you don't try and apply it?

Remember, don't let her become a oneittis you will allways only look at and think about!

Dynamo

Yeah, the one-itis is what I was afraid of. By searchin for her facebook profile, and thinking about how I would approach etc.. , I'm kind of imagining how she's like, but I'm afraid that I'm blowing this whole thing up. I guess that's what teh 3-sec rule is for