Hey people,
Without blowing my own trumpet... I would consider myself, attractive, Intelligent, interesting, fun, confident, sohpisticated etc etc.

When I go out to Clubs with the fellas.... I can instantly strike a conversation and have a great time with women either not my type or too old, generally that Im not interested in. We have a blast and a lot of the time they want more......

However when I see a girl im attracted to, I seem to lose my mojo....
Im far to conscious about being interesting, funny etc.. and this usually drives me not to open.......

Anybody got any tips to make this easier?

and thanks for reading my first post! (after my introduction that Is)

Cheers

Jimbob

General AA, then? Just not so bad that you can't open anyone. I used to suffer from this and many of my friends still do. There's no easy way of getting over it beyond becoming detached from the outcome and actively doing it not to pick these girls up but to have a brief conversation and get over your AA.

What I personally find helps is to create an extensive list of qualities that you need in your ideal woman and realise that you're not going to find all of these qualities in the majority of women and that these are more important than looks. Well, it works for me, anyway.

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Cheers Mate,
Il be sure to give that a try

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you have to realize they are just girls as well but the difference is they are lucky in their gene, thats all.

I think most can relate to this!

Another technique is focus on a single part of her that you don't like so much.

E.g find the flaw! If she has a spot or you don't like her jewelery/ odd shoes and keep that in front of mind to lower her value in your mind so shes just like the girls you are comfortable around.

Or like the other method mentioned above.

In your mind 'yep she ticks the beauty box' but thats common what other qualities does she have. Then go over, approach and find out!!

All good advice. Try to say to yourself: she's only a chick. She probably (just like every girl) looks in the mirror every day and list stuff she's unsure about.
EVERY girl is insecure about herself. The one's that are not are just the kind that don't really care about how they look, so 99 per cent of these girls aren't hot.

Look at it this way: her beauty is her most powerful, yet probably her only weapon. Her strength is to make you look at her. Once you dig deeper, you won't find anything. So try to tell yourself: she's allright to have a ONS with, but if it comes to intelligence etc, she's WAY out of my league.

Start negging her, it will lower her value and confidence. That way you'll put yourself on a higher value than hers. Also, try to switch to a subject you're interested in, and have something to say about. That wya you'll start talking, and you'll notice really soon that she's just a person.

Another trick: imagine you have your own company, and she's a sollicitor. You have to value her, so she's definately more nervous than you are, plus she will have to prove herself to you, not the other way around.

Hey guys,
Thanks for the sound advice... I should be going out this weekend... so its time to officially start using what I have learned...

Ill keep you postd on how it goes

Sharps, (ID Change: This nickname was given to me the other day in london on a work residential... and so it begins)

Thanks again

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