Here’s a funny thing that happened to me for quite some time when I was out on the streets, in a mall and even at the train station: most women that clearly gave me all kinds of signals to let me know they wanted to meet me..were WORKING.

So what? You might think.

So that’s a DILEMMA my friend: because if you go into that store, she has to be artificially polite..be nice to to while she doesn’t even KNOW you.

But being polite and creating attraction are two VERY different things, so I did the silliest stuff just to find out how I could meet them while they were on the job..and I soon discovered that…

It's all about reverse engineering the whole customer-employee etiquette, so let me ask you:

What are the two most basic rules that ANY waitress, bartender, butler, etc. uses while on duty?
- Be friendly, but don't get personal (making the customer feel important but not telling all about your current issues, your sexlife, your hopes and dreams, etc.)
- Make the customer feel special so they'll come back

Yes, I know, VERY basic but think about: how can I get a female employee to talk with me in a way that creates attraction?

• 1. Don't be "friendly" (polite and that's it), BE personal! When you see them making a mistake? Tease them about it. Whenever there's a crazy, rude or funny customer other than you? Comment on him/her and ask them what they think about it. Ask them what they think is the nastiest thing they sell, what they personally recommend and not just because it’s the most expensive thing on the menu (or in the store). Ask them why they chose THAT place, of all places, to work at...and then if they want to make moves up the ladder. Remember: be picky, be challenging, playfully tease etc. and also important...introduce YOURSELF and make sure you remember their name.
  
  2. It's also about frequency...at first you're just a face, but when you return? You can be THE face...by asking next time you visit for her name and if she's there, BEFRIEND the rest of the staff by asking them the same as above, and gossiping with them, joking around, being there after hours or before also does the trick because there's WAY more attention for you...ask names and make sure they remember yours. Not only will you be someone special to her and can have the store employees do you all kinds of favors – it’s also SOCIAL PROOF for every other woman who’s in the store/shop/diner which allows you to meet them much easier too!
  
  3. Make THEM special...by helping them out just a liiittle bit every now and then, giving a tip to someone personally WHEN you leave (before it, it's buying attention...when leaving, it's showing gratitude) but what even works better is: showing TRULY how they're special by bringing things...the good old "cupcakes my mother made", "special premium candy from there and there" etc. and give it upon leaving the joint. This will surely make them remember you, it makes you the "loved regular." Remember: this is the GOLDEN RULE of social proof, whether it’s in a club, in a restaurant, in a store or whatever.

Final tip: ask their working hours, do your thing and "accidently" bump into them when they're done saying how you were just going to there and there or do blabla...a natural friend of mine taught me this and it works PERFECTLY: you build attraction during your visit to the place of business, make sure you're introduced to each other, know when she's done working, and get to the place right before she's done. (Don't stand there waiting though, wait around the corner and start walking as soon as you see her for example). Perfect way for instant dates: ... (name here), is that you? Wow..funny I run into while I'm (going somewhere you name here)..I thought you were done working hours ago! So, what are YOU going to do? (Her: blabla) oh that's so BORING! Let's have a drink (at neutral location) so you can wind down after work a little, it'll be fun...afterwards...walk her home and BAM!

If she needs to work ‘til 9 p.m., the only reason for you failing to instant date her then and there is if she went home early because she’s sick OR because you’re blind. Man, thinking back to all the good memories I have because of dating the working woman? Makes me wanna go out and do it again, so I’m out, bye!

Most of the stuff I learn when it comes to techniques, I usually just stumble into then I go back and analyze what just happened.

The first time I number and email closed a girl while she was working, I was only out looking for a new laptop bag. So anyways, I walk into this store, a shoe, bag and accessory place and start browsing around the shelves, already making solid eye contact with the girl in question.
After about 5 minutes, she walks over and asks if she can help me with anything. I tell her I was looking for a laptop bag and she starts trying to sell items to me, business as usual. While she's in the middle of her pitch, I start interrupting her, taking about these shoes or that belt or this bag, bouncing the conversation around until it came to me asking about her necklace.
As with most prized jewelry, there's usually a story behind it. The conversation then moved onto travel and where she wanted to visit (my home country of England being one of them). It turns out she is also very weary of her job, practically loathes the work.
So after a little while, I pick the bag I want, then just as I was handing over the cash, she closes ME, asking if she could maybe call me later, having too much fun talking. I tell her sure, why not, to which she leaves me her email and personal phone number on her deputy-manager's business card.
I had a 2 month relationship with that girl in the end. Nice.

So after it all happened, I broke it down into a few lines for my own technique for sarging clothing store women.
Just a quick disclaimer though. I was LUCKY! lol
I didn't see any of this coming, so results may vary. Either way, it's a very easy and natural approach that doesn't require a lot of effort on your part.

Make solid eye contact with the woman you want to sarge. It's the international signal for "I need your help and it could mean a sale." She would then in most cases walk over to greet you.

While asking her for help picking something out, change the subject to other items, encouraging her opinions on them.

While talking about items, work in a few DHV stories or anecdotes about the bizarre clothing then move onto questions about her own clothes, preferably something of importance such as jewelry and questions that are positive but inquiring.

Now that the attention has been moved to her, ask more casual questions about her while still maintaining your interest of buying a product, but don't turn the conversation back to items.

Try and establish her enjoyment of the job. This is an important one. If you have good chemistry, it will give you unspoken permission to visit her more at work.

Then finally, after talking to her choose the product you want off the shelf (or make up some excuse about your wallet if you don't want anything. Really though I'd advise you to be in there for a reason) this shift will snap her back into "salesperson" mode and she will take stuff to the register.
This true time constraint will hopefully either give her a reason to give you her contact details or failing that, the conversation would have had a lasting impression that you can visit her again another day and close her or get a lunch break out of it.

Good luck!
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I'm in a situation where I'm attracted to a girl who works in the coffee shop I go to. Apart from saying "hello" and "bye" and ordering my coffee I haven't talked to her. She regularly clears the tables and this maybe an opportunity to start a conversation. Any tips for a opener and something to talk about. I'm not a natural at this sort of thing.

Hey mate, why not try the classic... 'they work you too hard here' then go on to say that you always see her in there. Tell her she needs a holiday, then you have opened the gate to an easy mid game convo on holidays... *where she's going, been, planning on going, where you've been, going, planning etc? Build attraction, and once you got your 3 ioi's tell her you wanna make her a coffee/take her on holiday sometime and number close?!

Cheers

CHLLXX

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