| Remember, your intent with an opener is to create interest, DHV, and then lead into conversation.
Works anywhere outside, anytime. Approach a girl, "Hey, can I ask a favor off you?"
9/10 response will be "huh?", "what is it?", etc.
"Listen, I'm waiting for my friend to pick me up, but she's [DHV: female friend] late and my cellphone's dead..." as you say this, take out your cellphone (make sure you turned it off), and if you have a nice cellphone (good investment, good DHV) like an iPhone or a Blackberry, that's a second DHV. Take it out of your pocket as your talking, give the phone a puzzled/disapproving look... "I just got in from the airport [dhv], haven't charged it in days..." By this time she's given you her phone to use 80% of the time.
I almost always get IOIs just from the good posture, and DHVs of the approach.
Example, used this lastnight with a wing.
Saw two girls talking russian inside a bar. We were smoking outside. They came out.
Did the approach on them. They didn't understand what we were saying. Like "huh? what do you want?". I said "a cellphone. Phone... they have them in Russia right? [wrong body language with this neg and I'd have sounded like a jerk, but it came off right]". "Oh... [hands over phone]. [pause] How did you know we were Russian?"... "I lived with Russian roommates for 6 months.... one of them, she was always trying to get me to learn Russian. I learned a grand total of like 2 words."
Immediate IOIs: Slanted head, smile, open posture.
The most important thing in a conversation is the subconscious message you are conveying. What are the implications of what looks like a neutral factual statement? I already have some familiarity with her culture (rapport). I had russian roommates, and they liked me. (Social Qualification). The girl had some interest in me, but I didn't really care about her too much (she was trying to teach me, I didn't bother to learn.)
"Which words?"
"Heh. Priviet [means hello -- I do know a tiny bit of russian]... and then the other words... I can only tell you when you're older. [smile]" (of course they were like 20-25 yrs old.) They laughed (while my friend fake-called the girls).
"So what about you. Where are you from?" IOI: plays with her hair.
"Scotland."
"What are you doing here [in America]?"
before I could answer my friend hands her cellphone back to her. I say "spasibo balshoye" (thankyou very much), showing I knew more than I told her. [DHV]
... and on from there. (#-close in the end.)
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