Fear of rejection is without a doubt, the single greatest obstacle standing in the way of most men today.

I should know – I’ve grappled with this seemingly invulnerable demon for years and let me just say with absolute certainty that yes, you can indeed slay this dragon.

Let me show you how…

What Is Fear of Rejection?
“Overwhelmed by sorrow, Arjuna spoke these words, and casting away his bow and his arrows, he sat down in his chariot in the middle of the battlefield.” – Bhagavad Gita

Let me be clear about one thing; fear of rejection is the root cause of a whole host of problems like insecurity, anxiety, fear and hesitation.

I’ll use the single most common instance of fear of rejection most men today deal with; speaking to beautiful women.

You’re at a bar, club, social gathering – whatever. That’s when you notice her…

Her light brown hair. Her green eyes that seem to sparkle and dance when she looks over at you, her excited smile at something one of her peers said… You begin to wonder how you’ve lived your entire life without ever seeing anything so incomparably beautiful… You want to go over there and tell her exactly those words. You want her to look at you excitedly and say ‘thank you!’, you want to dazzle her, sweep her off her feet, make her feel alive and excited just as she makes you feel alive and excited… And yet, oh no, what’s this?

Your knees get weak. Your palms begin to sweat. The words you wish to say just aren’t coming. Your mind takes taken over by a cloud of noise, of voices screaming a million thoughts a second…

What the hell gives man?

The basic fact of the matter is that you are afraid of her opinion of you – and her opinion of you is absolutely irrelevant.

Weather she jumps into your arms and says ‘I love you’ or she turns her back on you and says ‘go away’, it still has no bearing on who you are as a man. She is just rejection who she thinks you are, the image of you!

She doesn’t know that you’re a cool guy, or that you are fun and outgoing, or that you take care of your family, or that you have a thousand and one other qualities. How can you let someone own you like that?

Why The Fear of Rejection?
“The Self cannot be pierced or burned, made wet or dry. It is everlasting and infinite, standing on the motionless foundations of eternity. The Self is unmanifested, beyond all thought, beyond all change.” – Bhagavad Gita

There is an unspoken contract 99% of people live their entire lives by without ever being aware of it.

This contract is between the individual and society and it stipulates that; ‘I will adhere by your rules. I will behave. I will play my role, and in return, you give me the validation that I so desperately crave”.

You see, the reason you fear rejection is because you want something. I know, I know, but don’t roll your eyes just yet – obviously you want something, but what I’m talking about is at a much MUCH deeper level, lurking far beneath the surface.

Be it in the form of this particular woman at the club, or for others it’s the nice car, the big house, the nice muscles or whatever else – the reason you fear rejection is because you want something in order to enhance your sense of self. You are playing by the rules of the unspoken contract and are terrified the second you step out of it’s confines.

The other 1%? They’re the ones crazy enough to have an impact on the world. The ones who walk at a different rhythm than most men. The men you admire.

You see, those men read the fine print, where it says in tiny almost unnoticeable letters ‘This is a sham, no one ever won this way. No one can give you the validation and self-worth you crave. Only you can’.

How To Stop Fearing Rejection?
“On this path effort never goes to waste and there is no failure” – Bhagavad Gita

So the deep down nitty gritty dirty truth?

You fear rejection because you want validation.

You want validation because you don’t trust, love or know yourSelf.

Stop looking outward and come face to face with yourSelf.

You’ve been living in fear your entire life – it’s time to step into a new paradigm and start feeling alive again.

Your fan,
PatAnanda

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