I keep hearing over and over that rejection, or fear of rejection, is what makes the approach so hard. But I honestly never see a solution that seems to work for me. When it comes down to it, I would literally rather kill myself than introduce myself to a woman, or I at least equate the two acts. That's not a dramatization, at all. I will stand in a bar for hours, staring into space, and not say anything to any girl. Same goes for everywhere else on earth. There seems to be plenty of advice on what to do after you have her attention. But the best I usually get is "quit being a fucking pussy and do it". Obviously, that method does not work for me. I can't say I'm all out of ideas, because I never had good one. Is there anything at all that might help with this? I feel like nothing is ever going to happen for change if I can't first get this shit out of the way.

Therapy perhaps?

Do you expect to be good at karate just by stepping into the gym and watching other people and not trying?

You don't even want to help yourself so what chance do we have in helping you? Your best bet is to give a friend $300 and don't let him give it to you till you have approached and hit your goal

This is what bootcamps are for. This is what I did and it changed my life, I still take credit though but the bootcamp made me put my money on the mother fucking line. Where as when you're at home playing safe, you're less likely to get stuck in.

Maybe you should start looking into investing into yourself. Before you tell me that you 'don't have that kind of money bla bla' then find a way to get some money. Don't use the 'I can't afford it' excuse.

If any of my answers are met with an excuse, perhaps you should consider....That this pick up stuff is not for you, time to move on don't you think?

P.s. How did your date last week go by the way?

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It's the power of the pussy you are afraid of, NOT the women.

Women have seemingly extraordinary sexual power over men, take away your outcome dependency.... take away the fear. Your goal is not to look for sex or a woman but merely to look for and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

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ever tried warming up? ie asking a woman or guy for the time, then asking one for directions or some bs?

She was fat, lol. Used an old picture on OkCupid. I feel like I should have just saw her and turned the fuck around and left, but I went out on the entire date. Stupid mistake.

Also, what do you mean by a bootcamp? I am constantly spending my money looking for ways to be able to act normal, taking classes for my MBA, working out, reading stupid self-help books (highly rated, but still), dressing correctly, cutting my hair, and all of that still amounts to no pussy. If there's some kind of thing to try, I try it. Other than just asking girls out, since there would be no problem if I could do that with any amount of success... or failure.

A bootcamp to pick up girls. One on one training,

It seems you have money, could be a wise investment, it's not like you're gonna approach girls independently..

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To hear a person afraid of it is interesting because I imagine MYSELF saying similar to the same thing, and then as myself now looking back at my old self and seeing how incorrect such statements were.

That's because most girls are very open for a chat.

OP, try it for yourself and see.

They don't bite.

They don't laugh at you.

They're quite down to a chat with a cool dude. In some cases it lights up their day/week/month/year.

Jesus christ man do you really want to have this big of a regret hanging over you of not approaching - because if you were to actually cross that line, you might find out it is fucking exhilarating.

Time waits for no man.

Jump in to the pool.

Get it over with.

It's all downhill from there.

Okay, lets start here.

During this entire date with Jabba The Hutt, was she ever insulting? Mean? Did she chastise you in any way? Did she bite? (Other than try to eat you?)

I'm going to guess, NO!

Also, she wasn't your type, but rather than be mean, you completed the date. Because that seemed like the polite thing to do right? But I'm going to guess again here and assume you are just not going to contact her again.

That is exactly the same thing a girl would do if you were not HER type.

Nothing more than that. That's all that happens. Not so scary right?

While I for one want you to get out there and get your feet wet, meeting girls in every avenue of life, I want you to continue some anonymous online game.

PM me.

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I'm not sure if I was aware of that sort of thing, especially in my crappy area, but I'll look into it. Might be something I'd have to travel for.

Sorry bro, still working on that teleportation device, sorry for the inconvenience

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