So a few days ago, I cold-approached my first mixed-set. The girl was studying with a guy, and I went up and basically said "This is going to nag me the whole day, but is this guy your boyfriend?". She laughed and said "No this is my study partner". So long-story short, she was single, but she said "I don't go out with random guys", but then she said "Well, can I have your Facebook to look you up?".

In hindsight, I probably should've talked a little bit more to build a bit more of a connection (I had to go with my friend to finish up an assignment), but whatever, what's done is done and whatever happens happens.

In any case, it got me thinking about two things: First, every time I was interrupting a girl, I used direct approach. I'm not talking about just getting her to remove her earphones, but if she was deeply concentrating on studying or writing a paper, I figured there's no point in BS-ing around.

The only thing I can think of would be something like "What is it that you're studying", which in hindsight, might've worked in this case, only because she seemed to be focused on it, but not too focused to the point where interrupting her would've annoyed her.

It also got me thinking: I don't have much experienced with mixed-sets. The only time I got a girl's number from a mixed-set was when a guy and two girls were sitting behind me in class, but they weren't supposed to be in that class (they were a year younger than me), so I started a conversation about that. So it was so easy that it wouldn't count for these purposes.

A lot of girls study with guys, so it got me thinking what would be the best way to approach a girl studying with a guy when this opportunity comes by again? Should I stick with what I did last time and do direct approach, or do you think there might be a better way?

Your approach was cool.

I remember just walking up to a group studying, pop my seat and start talking. Your approach set the stage for pressure to be applied. It can definitely work. I'd suggest asking the guy if its his girl instead of asking the girl is that her boyfriend though. Its a bit more respect. Your choice to talk to any girl you want should be your entitlement. You shouldn't have to look to her for confirmation. Look to the potential mate for it. He may even assist you in your pick up if its done this way.

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you are thinking too much mate. In direct approaches should connect to her emotionally like i like you hair very beautiful same as my cat and now she is dead. try to connect to yourself emotionally with her in 1st 1 min.

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Your approach was very cool because it was BALLSY.

And women like ballsy guys. Literally.

But with mixed sets, remember to include the other person
into the conversation as well.

They are there TOGETHER, so strike up a conversation
with the guy as well - so you show that you're social - and
then say this:

"Ok well it was nice meeting you two, I wish you best in your
exam, and we should hang out sometimes...let's exchange
phone numbers or something..."

Make sense?

Now the girl isn't stupid, she knows what you mean. But when
you say it from that angle, it sounds a lot more natural than
"Wanna go out with me?"

Hope this helps,

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I think you should be more relevant to what is happening.

Talk about what she is studying be curious. Be a good listener.

Why to go direct if you have things to talk about. I mostly use direct in situations which arent in my favor to establish a good conversation at the beginning.

Majority of the girls depending on their age dont look for boyfriends. Girls at your school are relatively young..and fewer girls have boyfriends.. So going direct could work relatively well for you too.

In mixed set, I think you should withold your direct approach.