Hi Guys!

This upcoming Wednesday and Thursday i have two dates coming up at a cocktail bar with girl i met on tinder. I don't really know a lot about them so i will get to know them. Assuming that they matched me on tinder, i should have a decent chance for a good connection with them. So, i have read The Game a while ago and know a little bit about nagging etc etc but, i will be sitting at the bar next to her probably. I have no other people to really talk with other than her. Im kind of new to the game and would like to know some tips for a 1 to 1 date. Please let me know, thanks guys!

Knibo

Tinder dates are different... a lot of the time (and who knows if this is the case with you) the girls just want to hook up... so the legwork does itself.

If you found a couple who are in it for a relationship, however, you treat it the same as any other date...

If it's at a lounge or cocktail bar, you're going to want to dress decently, but don't overdo it... smell good, use some breath mints, wear deodorant and a bit of cologne (don't overdo it).

Be confident and playful and smile (real smile, not creepy smile). Have some stories lined up incase you need something to fall back on if the conversation runs dry.

Sit beside the girl if possible, not across. It's hard as hell to escalate when you've got a table in between you and the only thing you can do is play footsies or kick her.

The big thing is escalate. Aim for the F-close at the end of the night - it may or may not happen, but it's the goal... And how do you get to the goal? One step at a time, not 0 to 100 immediately - unless she's really down to fuck or really into you.

You need some comfort in order to kiss her, and you need to kiss her in order to fuck her... So work in steps and phases.

Good luck!

Hi Charles!

Thanks for the info! I will do my best. The dates are rescheduled to thursday and friday. I will not put a jacket on then, just a nice shirt and will take care of personal hygiene of course. With F close you mean to fuck her haha? I will try to do some kino when sitting next to her. But, do i neg the girl when have a drink with her? Thats seems a bit strange when were already on a date! I will let you know how it went after the dates. The girl from thursday isn't really hard but im trying to meet new people in Paris, where i study. The girl of friday should be pretty hot, see im curious.

Knibo

You sound new to this...

So no - stay away from negs. You'll probably use em wrong

And you're already on a date with her. You don't need to pick her up again. Negs are used to bring a girl down a peg if she's acting like a cunt towards you or is turning her nose up at you a bit... It doesn't sound like you'll need them.

As I said, have a few prepared topics INCASE things get silent and awkward... But hopefully it won't get to that. If all else fails and you run out of shit to say, just have a look around the bar - pick out some people and ask her what she thinks their story is...

Or - find celebrity doppelgangers out of the people who are there... IE: Look! It's Hispanic Al Pacino!

Good luck!

Also definitly plan ahead and think of a second and third location nearby. I've had quite a few Tinderdates in the past couple of weeks and always started out with drinks and then bounced. I'm not sure if it's a pattern or coincidence, but the sooner we bounced the better the date. Maybe a amusement park, or playground or something like that. I don't know if you have any kind of christmas thing in your area, but those are also great to hang out, cause you can look at weird shit while building rapport. In my opinion Cocktail Bars are a great start, cause it's kinda neutral and public and most girls are a bit nervous about meeting somebody they have never seen IRL. But I wouldn't spend the whole night there. Gets boring and bouncing is just generally great to speed things up.

The 'bounce' is actually a great opportunity to escalate and k-close.

Street corners or waiting for stop lights... hold her hand, and lean in.

The one thing I always make sure to do when I go out on a date is have my elements for attraction, rapport, and seduction prepared....

So it would go like this:

I would have 2 different stories I could tell, and 2 different things I could tease her for right off the bat to spark attraction. (the stories will get the conversation flowing as well) Also have some games that you guys can play in order to spike attraction (2 truths and a lie, questions game, thumb war, etc...)

Then I would have 3 different topics I could qualify her on, in order to build rapport. (are you spontaneous? what’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done in the past year? You seem different than most girls I meet, I’m not sure what it is, you just seem..... interesting. Im curious, tell me the top 3 things that are the most interesting about yourself.) You can also save stories that have personal meaning for this part.

Then I’ll have at least one game prepared that will give me an excuse to get physical with her (palm reading, secret handshakes, etc...) But just remember, when you get into seduction, it’s TWO STEPS FOWARD, ONE STEP BLAME.

You have all this prepared and you should have no problem keeping the date flowing.

Oh and remember the golden rule of dates, NEVER STAY IN THE SAME ENVIRONMENT FOR MORE THAN AN HOUR

If you’ve been at the bar for an hour, leave an go take a walk somewhere. If she’s anxious about leaving with you, set it up by saying, “Do you even consider yourself spontaneous?” She’ll clearly say yes and then you can say “cool come on lets go for a walk.”


Boom done.

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Thats a whole lotta good nuggets of truth right there.

dont talk about tinder on your tinder date - get her to just talk about herself

the more she talks about herself the better.

dont neg her. the game was written about 10 years ago... negging is out dated. instead just make her laugh!


good luck!!

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Thanks for the tips man!

Its funny i didn't read this yet until now. An update, i have had 2 dates. 1 date was 2 weeks ago. That date was terrible because it really wasn't the girl for me and vice versa. I was supposed to have another date the day after but it got cancelled. The girl that cancelled the date texted me the week after and we had a date last saturday. We met on the streets and went to have a drink at a bar, had a glass of wine and had casual conversations. The contact was really nice and i could make her laugh, (sometimes you can be a bit lucky that you have a date with a good girl). Later that night we had the plan to go to a party in paris in a club. We went to the club and had a good night. I threw a good amount of kino in the game so the contact started to develop further. At a moment she was flirting with me and saying if she didn't know if i was a good guy etc bla bla. I told her that im a good guy bla bla and flirter more and more, then i leaned in and gave here a kiss. I kissed her very shortly because she was shy because it was in public, which i think is always very annoying I let her walk a little bit for the rest of the night because i didn't want to chase here too much. When she wanted to leave she wanted to say goodbye and walk out of the club without kissing me, i told her that i would escort her out. I did this but she wanted to greet me with 2 kisses on the cheek (which is a normal greeting in France) then i hold her hand and pulled her softly to me and kissed her on the mouth. She tried to sort of evade it and then i just sort of negged her with that she is shy. I don't know why the girl is trying to be "hard to get" or something else but maybe its just the game. For me it was a successful dat but a bit annoying about the kissing thing. She does want to have another date this upcoming week so that is good news. What do you think of this story? I agree with you that you have to stay max 1 hour at the same place. Can you give an example of seduction with 2 steps forward and 1 step back?
Thanks!

Knibo

Fun story man, a kiss close on the first date isn't half bad. I f-closed my most recent Tinder date after the second date, which was really suprisingly fast for me, since she was kind of shy as well and really kind of green (she is 19 and had her first kiss and first time at 18 ).
btw. im gonna meet another Tinder girl next week, and she is part-french. So that's kind of fun. Im really looking forward to her, she is the most fun girl i've talked to on Tinder in a while and smoking hot. Always wanted to get with a french girl.

Any special insides about french girls you could share with me?

Well what is definitely a habit for the french is that you pay the drinks on the first date! Also, when you leave the club with her you always let the ladies go first through the door. Just be a gentleman, thats really expected from the french people in general!

Well that's easy enough, I'm doing that already. But seriously, It's a really great sign for me, if the woman offers to pay, but at least on the first date, drinks are always on me. Everything else is just being a cheap bastard and has nothing to do with being alpha or some shit.

I consider it a bit of a red flag if she doesn't at least reach for her purse when the bill comes.

But yeah, I generally always pay on the first date...

Yeah, or give a genuine thanks, or offer to pay the next round, just something, to show that she isn't so up her own ass, that she thinks I need to buy my way into her pants. I had a short phase where I wouldn't pay for drinks out of "principle" but now I think that's just silly. You asked her out, just buy the damn drinks. I mean, sure, in a perfect world it wouldn't work that way. But i'd rather shell out the 20 bucks or whatever and avoid any awkwardness.

Just stay away from expensive cocktail bars on the first date.