How? Step-By-Step. From Approaching To Getting HER Number
Have you been in this scenario or something similar?
You’re out, and you’re waiting for your friends to hang out, at a bar, bookstore, café, restaurant, malls etc…
… Then suddenly you see a hot, attractive woman walking towards your direction. She totally caught your attention…
She’s turning heads as she’s walking…
There’s certain aura around her, like an angel on earth sort of feeling…
Your heart’s beating like crazy, or maybe it has stopped beating for a few seconds…
You’re sweating like hell…
Butterflies are flying in your stomach…
And your knees are knocking against each other…
You’re like… wow, she looks amazing.
“I want to approach her”
“OMG, what should I say?”
“Nah, she’s so hot, she’s probably attached”
“Ah forget it, she’s walking away already”
Then a few minutes later…
“F**K! I should have totally approached her and get her number”
And now you’re kicking yourself for NOT action and NOT having the balls to approach the girl of your dream.
Well. NOT ANYMORE. At least not when you’re done reading this article.
This article is a step-by-step on how to approach an attractive woman to getting her number.
Mindset Before Approach
I get it. When you see a hot attractive woman that you don’t know, you have million things go through your mind.
“What to say?”
“How to say to her?”
“Should I approach her?”
“How to approach her?”
“Will I get my balls kicked by her?”
“What if she’s got a boyfriend?”
“What if she slaps me?”
“What if other people laugh at me when I approach her?”
“What if I fail and get rejected? OMG that will be shit!”
Well, let me tell you this, if you’re thinking too much, you end up NOT approaching. And that’s not what we want here.
When you want to approach a woman you find attractive, just have this one thought:
“I’m just going over to tell her that’s she attractive. No big deal, no ulterior motive.”
“Cool.. wait what??! ARE YOU CRAZY? You can’t just tell women that they’re attractive? Have you gone MAD?”
Well, you can.
First of all, base on my experience of approaching 1000s over women randomly on the streets, and telling them that they’re attractive, have gotten me tons of numbers.
Second of all, nothing BAD has ever happened to me. No police. No injury. No nothing. The worst was “sorry, not interested”.
Third of all, women really spend a lot of time to make themselves look good. The amount of money, time, and effort for that hair, that make up, and that hot body.
You would think that they would scream at you for complimenting them on something they spend a lot of effort in? NAH.
Lastly, women want to be approached. Men want women, and women want men. If you’re approaching, you’re doing the right thing.
So really just remember this and always tell yourself.
“I’m just going over to tell her that’s she attractive. No big deal, no ulterior motive.”
What’s The First Thing To Say? Word for Word
So I’m going to make it simple for you guys. Don’t need to rack your brain over this. Here are a few examples:
1. Hi, excuse me. Don’t worry I’m not selling anything, I just want to come over and tell you that you’re hot/attractive/cute/adorable, and want to say hi.
2. Hi, you look amazing, you’re the most beautiful girl I have seen all day/week/month.
3. Hello. I saw you from there, I thought you looked really hot from behind. Hmmmm, and you look really hot from the front too.
That’s it. Three simple opening lines you can use. Feel free to change a little, as long she knows WHY you’re talking to her.
FYI: These are commonly known as the direct openers in the dating community. Meaning you’re telling the girl upfront why you’re here. Really, it’s no big deal.
Why?
Hot attractive women know they’re hot anyway.
If you go over and talk about the weather, the traffic (which is retarded), she’s going to think you’re full of shit anyway.
Slightly Less Direct Way of Saying:
IF you’re REALLY shy, then I recommend that you add in little extra thing before telling her that she’s attractive.
“Hi, do you know where XXX place is?”
Then when she’s done telling where the place is, eg Starbucks, toilet, subway, café etc, then you say the previous three lines I shared with you.
“Actually, I am not really asking for direction. Just want to come over and say hi because I find you hot.”
Extra Tips:
Don’t immediately ask for number. That’s NOT how it works. The girl has got to get to know you a little first. You wouldn’t give your number right away to a stranger, why would you expect other people to do the same?
Which brings me to the next point, conversation.
During Conversation
So you continue the conversation after telling her that she’s attractive.
Ask yourself these:
What’s the WHOLE point of approaching a woman?
What’s the WHOLE point of talking to people?
You want to approach her because you’re interested in her, and you want to date her. And I’m pretty you wouldn’t want to date a crazy bitch OR a bimbo right?
So you have to get to know her. And by having a short interesting conversation will allow you to get to know her, AND vise versa.
Simple tips for having the conversation
1. Find Out 5 Interesting Facts About Her
You want to get to know her, so get to know her!
What’s she doing in the area?
What she likes to do for fun?
What she does when she’s free?
Is she still studying/working?
What she’s studying? WHY she’s studying that?
What she’s working? WHY she’s working as that?
Ask her to describe ideal weekend
I could go on but the list of questions you can ask her is endless. The main point really is to get to know her. SO ask her things that you’re interested to know about.
Examples:
Question, YOU: So what are you doing around this area?
HER: Oh, I’m meeting my friend, and we’re going to this café XXX.
There are two things in the sentence, her friend and café. You can talk about her friend OR the café.
(On friend) YOU: Oh nice. Is your friend as cute as you? But I highly doubt that.
-This is flirting.
OR
(On friend) YOU: Nice. Friend or boyfriend? I hope he’s not your boyfriend, if not I’ll be really sad.
(Pretend to be sad, and smile)
-One-way to find out if she’s attached.
OR
YOU: Oh cool. Have you been there or it’s the first time? I been there a few times, I would say their ZXC dish is the best. Really, check it out.
OR
YOU: Oh. I’m meeting my friend. I haven’t been there. What’s nice about that place?
Always listen carefully to what she’s talking about, and CHOOSE one subject/topic/person to talk about. That’s how you continue conversation easily.
2. Talk about yourself – a little
Conversation is a two-way street; as she’s talking, and you’re listening, feel free to talk about yourself a little too. Why? So she could get to know you, and connect with you.
Example:
HER: I’m meeting my friend to catch movie QWE.
YOU: I see. That’s great movie, I love that it’s XXXX. Usually, I don’t watch this kind of movie, but actor XXX is inside. I just love the way he acts.
-You’re telling her a little about yourself.
OR
YOU: I see. I haven’t watched it yet. I prefer watching XXX type of movies. What can I say? I’m a typical guy – cars, robots, and action. What are your favourite types of movies?
-You’re telling her a little about yourself.
-Continuing the conversation by ask her more questions.
-Getting to know her more.
What if you’re nervous?
If you’re nervous, then just tell her that you’re nervous, and you don’t usually do this. And you have never met such a beautiful girl like her. And then smile.
Closing – getting her number
After talking for a while, ie 5 to 10 minutes, and getting to know her a little, ie 5 interesting things about her, it’s time to get her number.
Of course, I am NOT saying you have to restrict yourself to just 5 to 10 minutes of conversation, but it’s good enough.
And I’m also NOT saying you should have a long ass conversation that lasts one hour. Just because the conversation is long does NOT mean she’s interested. I have talked to a girl for half an hour and nothing came out of it.
It’s never about the LENGTH of the conversation, but rather the QUALITY of the connection.
So this is how you can say to get her number.
“It’s been nice talking to you, I enjoy our conversation. I want to see you again. Give me your number and we will talk again soon.”
- Remember to SMILE
OR
“Okay, my friend is here, but it’s been nice meeting you. I like to keep in contact with you, and have coffee with you some day. Give me your number, and we will talk again soon”
While you’re saying that, take out your phone, press it to the numberpad screen, and then pass it to her for her to enter her number.
Essentially, it’s just about telling it’s nice to talk to her, you want to see her again, and tell her to give you the number.
Only 2 things can happen. She gives you her number or she doesn’t.
If she gives you her number, you have done a decent job talking to her to show that you’re a NORMAL guy that just has enough balls to talk to her.
If she doesn’t, then it’s okay.
Maybe you need to hone your conversational skills a little.
Maybe she’s attached.
Maybe she’s lesbian.
Maybe she’s happily married with 2 kids.
Maybes Maybes Maybes.
Tons of maybe, and I can’t address them all.
But really, it’s okay to NOT get a number after talking to a girl.
If you talk to 10 girls, and you get a number, it’s actually pretty decent.
Final Points
Don’t expect to get numbers just because you approach a girl. Some girls just aren’t interested. There are tons of reasons you won’t get her numbers.
Don’t be afraid to get rejected because you WILL get rejected, no matter how good you are. I get rejected all the time. But imagine. If you get rejected 9 times and get 1 number for today, is it good enough for you? I think it’s good enough.
Have a curious mindset, don’t go in and approach a girl with a motive of getting numbers. You’re going over to compliment with her and have a nice chat. If she seems great, then get her number. If not, then leave.
Last point
Unfortunately, I can’t write every single details and scenarios in just one article. But I hope it can help you get started on approaching girls you find attractive, and hopefully have an awesome dating life.
If you have any feedback/results, please feel free to comment. Thank you.
CHAT
