Hi everyone,

My first post on the forum is about this neg I tried last weekend. I went out to a club with a friend and approached a set of 3 girls on the dance floor. I was in a pretty good mood and felt like trying something new. One of the bouncers told me the club used to be the spot for transgenders, so I approached this hot blonde (HB9?) and whispered in her ear:

"Hey my friend John is really into trannies, I think you should totally meet him"

Her initial reaction was disbelief, she kept asking "did you say tranny? did you say tranny?". She was definitely shocked and caught off guard. I continued with "Hey John, come over I want you to meet someone" and waved at my wing to get closer and meet her. John had absolutely no idea what I had said to the girl so his facial expression looked very genuine, which was perfect for the scene.

Eventually after she realized I DID imply she was a tranny she said "I'm not a fucking tranny! Fuck you" and gave me the finger. I wanted to get an emotional reaction out of her and totally got it. I figured every guy in that fucking club was trying to suck up to her and get her validation so I had to be different.

The interesting thing I've noticed is just a couple of minutes later she moved very close to where I was standing and I almost got the impression that she wanted to be approached again.

Now this was really fun for me, but the problem is I did not have anything to follow-up and build something out of the interaction. I knew that if I would have tried backpedalling I might have come off as weak (ex: "Hey, I was just fucking with you, I actually don't think you're a tranny but wanted to get your attention"). Since she had been put down she was also probably hoping I'd try again so she can shut me down and regain her confidence.

Any ideas on how to follow-up on a strong neg? What would be a good segue into normal conversation?

I'm not sure what the community is considering to be a "neg" now days, but as far as I know you implying she is a tranny isn't a neg. That's just an insult, man. Which would explain her, "fuck you!" reaction.
I'm not big on negs anyway, but the whole point is it's supposed to be a backhanded compliment. Something that could potentially be interpreted as you trying to say something nice, but it knocks them down a peg or makes them feel self-conscious.
I don't think apologizing or saying "Haha, I'm just messing with you." would have made you come across as weak, it's just the socially normal and polite thing to do in a situation when you accidentally offend someone. I can't think of any other way to recover from calling a woman a tranny lol.

Do yourself a favor, mate. Just skip the whole trying to neg the hot girl in the club thing. It's not necessary. It's like you said how every guy in the club was probably trying to kiss her ass, win her over, right? Let's just assume that's true. So how do you stand out from those guys? You don't need to insult the girl to do it. Just don't kiss her ass. Don't act like you are trying to win her over. Frame the interaction as if she is trying to win you over. That is the actual way to stand out from the crowd. You come across as a man that is not needy, a man that likely has abundance in his life. A man that is confident and has value.
And instead of negging her, tease her instead. The difference between a tease and an insult is that a tease is playful, light-hearted and laugh provoking. It's not malicious or mean. Think of how you might poke fun of someone you love, like a little sister. You don't call the girl a cunt, you call them a little dork or brat. I hope that clarifies it enough. Hope that helps.

I actually laughed when I read this. It's been a while since I heard somebody being able to shock a girl like that...you have definitely gotten her emotional reaction, and shocked her enough.

But the idea with calling your friend over...I would pay to see that. I'm still laughing as I'm writing this.

Regarding the insulting thing - I'm not sure if she was insulted...when girls get shocked like that, it take a
time before they pick themselves up and realize what just happened.

She just as well could take it as a ballsy joke you did on her. So when you noticed her standing close to
you, you could have said something like, "I hope you didn't really think I though you were a tranny...I mean
look at you...you're gorgeous. But with all these guys coming on to you I had to get your attention..."

Trust me, it WOULD work. And she probably didn't forget you to this day.

Amazing set up, too bad you didn't walk over there to ease things out. It would probably turn out
really good.

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