Hi, everyone. I have a few questions on very direct openers. Directness and honesty is something I highly value, so it only makes sense that I would like to meet people who value that and express it themselves. I also don't want to invest a lot of time/attention into someone who's not that interested. I've been told that I'm very forward, and they generally say that with a big smile on their face.
In an effort to become more successful with directness, I'd like to get some opinions on how I can improve my technique.
My goal is to become successful using very direct methods (like the Apocalypse Opener or "Hey, you're adorable. Are you single?") on lone wolves during day game. Although bars aren't necessarily the most target-rich environments during the day/evening, they're still open game, in addition to streets, department stores, bookstores, etc. Obviously, if I feel like opening a group of women, I'll tone down the directness a bit.
Here are my questions:
1) I have a lot of value, and I want to be able to use it. I have a PhD (and can easily prove it in set), a great job, I'm a pretty good dancer, I've lived in several states, I've had multiple tropical vacations, I'm a musician, etc. How do you work this into a direct approach? I'm not speaking of the opener, specifically. If she says, "But I don't even know you!", then how can I establish a small amount of comfort that I'm a cool guy without sounding like I'm bragging? Or is it better to just sidestep the objection entirely?
2) If a girl objects because she has a boyfriend, what's a good response? I was thinking, "That's ok, I'm not really looking for a girlfriend anyway." I think it's often the case that it's either a shit-test or that they're just being up-front with you, but are still down for some fun (or some combination of the two).
3) How do you get her attention? Lots of day game enthusiasts recommend jogging ahead and putting up a Stop hand signal. I'm more inclined to just tap her on the shoulder. I've also seen some people say they do the awkward one-armed hug when approaching. I would do that, but I'd like to know how they're likely to respond. I'm kind of a touch-feely person, so it feels natural to go for a (albeit awkward) hug with new women.
4) How do you approach in coffee shops or other venues where the girl is seated? Do you just take a seat and run your line or stand and deliver?
I'd be more comfortable taking a seat first.
5) If someone you just met agrees to go home with you, how does the physical escalation go on the trip back home? Do you wait for the kiss until you're home or sneak one in when you're letting her in your car? Maybe a kiss on the cheek would be preferable until you're alone. Something needs to happen in the car. Do you put your hand on her leg or massage her neck or hand massage or what? Order of escalation would be nice.
That's all for now, but I'll probably think of something else later. Looking forward to your suggestions!
CHAT