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Today i would like to share my latest blog post with you all:
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How to get girls – 3 Simple Steps
In today’s article we break down how to get girls to like you in 3 simple steps.
If your reading this article chances are you are not happy with your success with women or maybe it’s a particular girl you like and want to know how to get her.
So let’s get started…
Step 1 – Get your confidence in check.
Most people think being confident is “acting” a certain way or displaying certain characteristics. While this is true, confidence must come from within and be AUTHENTIC. True, you can fake it till you make it when first getting started, but eventually your true self will shine through.
Being confidence comes from believing you are ENOUGH no matter what. This is TRUE confidence. It comes from a state of calmness, satisfaction, and self-worthiness that comes from within no matter what.
How to develop confidence?
You won’t get confidence overnight. Sorry to break it to you.
You develop confidence through reference experience. In other words, you need to develop evidence that you are enough.
1) Have goals.
You need to work on accomplishing something. Sitting around playing video games will get you nowhere. You need to get up off your ass and do something. Start with small goals such as making a simple conversation with the bartender, or making simple conversation with a waiter.
From experience I’ve learned if you start of too big, you will get discouraged and start to lose motivation. It’s better to establish a goal within your reach and that is clearly attainable. Such as going out to a bar, and saying hi to the first girl that attracts you. Then as time goes on start to raise the bar and go for small conversation.
Achieving each small goal will help raise your level of confidence. Achieving this small goals will also help you set and achieve bigger goals.
2) Learn from failure
When you fail learn to use it as a learning experience. Often we can learn from others but the best way is to fail on our own. Remember, by failing you have at least taken the chance at something you want. Plus, you can always try multiple times at something.
3) Focus on your strengths
This is a big one. Most people ALWAYS focus on their weaknesses rather than their strengths. Instead of focusing on what your week at, focus on what you’re strong at and using that skill to put yourself in a better situation. Focusing solely on the bad will lead you into a state of negativity and loss of motivation and overall confidence.
4) Face Your Fears
Facing your fears is often over-looked in the process of building confidence. Fear can hinder you, make you make excuses and ultimately causing you to take no action.
The only way to truly destroy fear of something is to face it, and realize everything you thought was “real” was just a false evidence that your ego created to protect itself.
For example, most guys are afraid of rejection. This comes from a fear of loss of ego. Once you start approaching girls you soon realize when a girl is not interested, she is NOT rejecting you. She just may not be interested. Ultimately you don’t know her situation. But our minds tend to look for evidence of why we got “rejected” and then you start to blame yourself.
So face your fears. Only then will you not be limited to the boundaries created by fear.
After all, everything we imagine is bad, is usually not at all bad as we imagined.
5) Avoid comparison
Avoiding comparison is huge. I see a lot of guys start to compare themselves to other people. This leads to beating yourself up, which then leads to negative impact on your motivation. Ultimately, you want to avoid comparing yourself to others and only focus on what YOU can accomplish.
Step 2 – Have the right mind-set
Having the right mind-set is CRUCIAL when trying to get the ladies. If you go out to most clubs you’ll notice what I call “The Wall of Shame”. This is the wall or bar where most of the guys are leaning against on the side of the dance floor. Looking at the girls, but not making a move. Their mind-set is usually
“If I stand here long enough, maybe some girl will approach me. After all, I look cool standing here”
Have the mind-set that you are a person who takes action. Don’t sit around waiting for someone to “Put you on”. Put yourself on. Start getting out there making friends, approaching different women. Being sociable. Get a gym membership, and start building your body. Go to the library and start reading!
You wont to do activities and hobbies that will help you change your old mind-set of the past to the mind-set of the Cool, Alpha guy.
Step 3 - Go out and get other girls
Out of all the steps above this is the most important. If you work on the above 3 steps and you don’t go out. That is the same thing as going to college and getting a degree, then flipping burgers the rest of your life.
You MUST go out and take action. Start going out and approaching women 2 to 3 times a week. If you can go out more than that I highly encourage it. But 2 to 3 is enough.
You will notice by just going out and approaching strangers, you will automatically want to improve other areas of your life. All of the kinks in your armor will start to show and you will realize things you need to change and improve in your life. It is truly amazing how this works.
Ultimately, if you want to learn how to get girls, the best way to do is by going out and actually approaching girls regularly.
CHAT
