I don't have any buddies interested in pickup so if I'm going to do anything I need to go out alone. However I'm quite intimidated by going to a club alone. It seems you'd have to constantly be opening groups to avoid being that creepy loser standing in the corner alone fantasizing about all the women. I suck at dancing so I can't just go out on the floor either.

I need some motivation! How many of you go to clubs alone? How do you make it work? Or are there better venues to start out on when flying solo?

You answered your own question bro

That's a good question.

I'm having the same problem and usually end up gaming when i'm out with friends. I don't have a wing because of it and usually end up opening sets alone or talking to girls that are alone. Going out alone is just too intimidating. I can't open sets if I don't have an anchor somewhere.

Honestly, i've thought about it and been tempted to go out alone without friends but I don't think I could do it. The only way to get over it is to get used to it I guess and just dive in but that takes some balls. You could always find a wing on the forums or join a lair that's near you?

I know that feel bro, going into clubs to practice alone can really be scary since there's no one to turn to for comfort. But just like overcoming approach anxiety, the fear can be eliminated.

What I did was not to be too overly ambitious, and force myself to head to a club alone for 15 minutes just to get the feel for it. Don't try to open sets, just go in there, grab a drink and make some friendly talk to some of the guys over there (since they're easier to approach). Also act as if you're waiting for someone so you won't feel like a creeper standing alone in the corner (serves as a good FTC when in sets too).

Personally I feel getting over the fear of practicing alone is a lot easier than overcoming approach anxiety. After hanging out in a club alone for 15 minutes, I realise it's actually a lot more efficient to practice alone rather than in group of friends who have no idea what you're trying to practice They're just dead weights unless they're aware of what you're running and can collaborate with you.

So here's the challenge for you: go alone to a club and hang out just for 15 minutes, nothing more. Don't pressure yourself too much, this is just the first step and you'd be surprised it's actually a lot easier and less scary than it first sounds. Good luck out there

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Thanks Zexphyrium, that sounds like something solid. I'll definitely give it a shot!

corianton,

There's nothing to be intimidated about going out to club alone.

I, in fact, do it all the time...and would even prefer going out alone than having a wing-man.

The only intimidating part I think I could relate is when you're initially going out the door and headed to your destination...you feel that butterfly and heart of yours pumping fast.

Relax my friend.

I would recommend you go out at night by yourself and just do some exploring on your own...without any expectation of going into the venue by yourself but just absorb the social energy.

Not just guys but girls, even more, have this solo-stimga where they can't go anyway by themselves, let alone a club.

Think of yourself like James Bond traveling the world on his own and going out by himself. Try watching some James Bond flick even before you go out and absorb and get motivated by him going everywhere by himself to meet girls.

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you perhaps need to work on recruiting an "anchor" in the club. I like that term. chances are there are a bunch of other guys in the same venue in the same situation you are. That's the first thing I used to do. You may open a dude by saying, "hey do you know this chick up here" "have you seen her up close? is she hot" something like that, then just go do it. if she blows you off go back to him and say "damn shes not too friendly" depending on his actions you can stay and keep talking to him or eject.

something like that could get you going