--the way you react to stress in relation to how you get focused has a huge impact on the way you perform and how fast you learn.
--some stress is good, it puts pressure on you to get in the moment and brings out your tightest game
--other types of stress have the opposite effect because it just make's you neurotic and pushes you further and further into your head

Ex. I'm not amazingly good at approaching, if anything I'm great at giving off an approachable vibe so girls will smile and give me approach invites, when I try to make myself approach I just put myself wayyyyyyyy in my head & that approachable vibe goes out the window, definitely counterproductive to what I want to do at that particular moment.

But in contrast to that, I went out with my boy who's not into game and HE got approached by a model (a fucking model!) and froze like a deer in headlights.. when we later saw that girl again (after punching him in the arm one good time) IT WAS ON. I ran up on her, hand of god, chatted her up.. passed her to my boy, grabbed her friend, dragged her to the wall(now I'm leaning on it), physically escalated on her by interlocking fingers with her and flirting with her, she's giggling and laughing, turns out she's 35 and I'm 22 at the time LMAO that's great.

so to illustrate my point, putting pressure on myself to go in hard for the sake of getting the girl is bad for me, but on the other hand if I feel OBLIGATED to go in hard... like I can't let this happen without doing something, I perform much much better than usual. It has to do with the type of stress I'm under and the way I handle it with my particular personality. Some people can be extremely selfish, they get motivated just by the prospect of fulfilling their own wants and needs which might be a good character trait for going in hard, might even be a more alpha way of doing things... but is that right for me? will that move me in the direction I'm trying to go? probably not, its not me... its not congruent with who I am, But on the other hand, If my intent is more aligned with the right type of pressure I can probably go in much harder than the more selfish guy who just wants to fulfill his own wants and needs, it can really go either way, so its ultimately best for me to be accountable for it by tipping the scales in my own favor as much as possible.

if you find yourself trying to do something that has you choking up & getting in your head, maybe your just doing it wrong? Maybe your trying to do it in a way that's not right for you?

Push Vs. Pull

Some people need a PUSH, some people need someone yelling at them or standing over their shoulder making sure they do what their supposed to or they loose motivation & Some people need the thing that's going to inspire or encourage them to act, something to PULL Them in the direction of what they want. A weird thing about me is its actually much EASIER for me to approach a 10 than any other type of girl, why? because the 10 COMPELS me to approach her, the girl with the perfect ass COMPELS me to approach her, I'm PULLED into the approach, I HAVE TO approach this girl, I'm not gonna be a little bitch and let her walk away, end of story.

so if your always getting AA, running out of stuff to say or psyching yourself out before you close, maybe you just need to stop pushing yourself and adopt a more "pull" style of learning where you stop worrying about what your doing and just do whatever your most compelled to do instead.. smile, laugh, enjoy the moment & when you see that 10 who's so perfect you can't let anything PUNK YOU OUT of approaching her, go for it.

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