| 1. Your Opener doesn't matter too much as long as its in a playful and fun way (Club Game). If you want some openers then have a look at my other post "Tomorrow night, i'm taking opener test requests".
Here are the things that really matter in club game....
EYE CONTACT - So ridiculously overlooked - eye contact is the BEST way to build a connection, I cannot understate how important this is, it shows confidence to hold someones gaze and builds more rapport and connection than any amount of conversation can. Proof in point - K close with a swiss girl within 10 minutes who I barely spoke to while out for a cigarette the other night- she opened me and my friends asking if we had any weed, we did not. Isolated her- (next point) and kept Eye contact whilst talking to her about general crap, nothing sexual, just switzerland and nothing else.
ISOLATION - Again, the amount of times I see guys try to pick up girls when they are talking in a group of 3 of 4 and trying to escalate while holding a 3 or 4 way conversation- your chances are significantly reduced when you do this, and I mean to like almost none, unless both girls are into you or you are superman, ISOLATE, even if it is just moving a few feet away from the group to create a distinct distance. why this is important? - it removes obstacles- if she is interested her limbic brain will take over and become submissive - looking away from you to show submissssionor focusing on her friends or the other people in the group to reduce the awkward feelings she has. ISOLATE her, even if it is only a few feet away from her friends/your friends - then hold good eye contact. It is difficult to hold eye contact if you are not isolated she will have too many distractions (other people) to look at to really be able to build a connection.
SLOW YOUR SPEECH - once you have got good eye contact, SLOW your words, not so much that you seem retarded, just enough that it seems different to how you would usually talk. Why do this? - it builds SEXUAL TENSION. More things you can do to build sexual tension - look at her lips every so often- son't stare unless it is clearly on for more than 2 seconds - doing this creates an idea in her head subconsiously that you want to kiss her, subconsiously (if you have built enough attraction), she will want to kiss you because of this.
KINO- this should be part of your entire process, see Gamblers Escalation Ladder theory/1-100 scale, I use these as IOI's and also to build comfort with me touching her - but not on her ass etc, kino in non sexual places to begin with (shoulder), then in very slightly more sexual places gradually - (neck, face, back of her head, hair, small of her back , bum). If at any point she gets uncomfortable with your touch then go back a stage and build more attraction.
FINALLY - BODY LANGUAGE - get a book and read up on this MORE than any other part of your game- your subconscious mind gives off soooo many needy ticks and actions without you realising it - i'm not going to detail every little thing but here's an example from Joe Navarro's - What Every Body is Saying (great book) - Where do you think you should look when trying to assess someones true intentions? ....face? hands? NO.....It is their FEET. e.g. if you are talking to a target and one foot is pointing to the door and the other away from you - it is likely she wants to leave, if she is square onto you both feet turned in your direction or even one in your direction and one in another direction that doesn't seem to be pointing towards anything specific- she's into you, start attraction. This tiny bit of insight is just a scratch on the surface of knowledge you can get from reading about body language.
Hope this helps
Jake
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