Hello, I need a guy’s opinion. Why would a guy want to be friends with his ex-girlfriend? Why would he want to talk to her every day (reach out to her himself)? Why would he want her to confide in him\vent to him and want to know what is going on in her life?

Thank you.

Well, this may be tricky.

I believe there could be two reasons....

a) he is not totally over her and wants to monitor what is happening in her life, maybe hoping that he could re-enter again. This one is shit, and she should watch for that. Its easy to find out as certain types of events in her life affect him in certain ways. Like, she has someone new....he is upset about it etc.

b) she is a valuable person for what ever reason, job, life, opinions, anything really, and this kind of people is good to keep in our lives. Lets say they broke up because it simply faded away... then they may respect each other and like each other as a person, but there is no attraction. This one should be understood.

I have been in both scenarios on both sides.
She should ask him about her, how is she and what they talked about.... etc. I believe that, if he is willing to talk about it without getting all weird and that, then its ok and its probably the b) reason. If the opposite, she should face the reality and give it a good thought.

My opinion anyways
T

I agree, this is what I wrote her back :

OK, I like this question because you are not really telling me why you want to know "I mean" is this your man, a friend, you give no clues? So with that said; I will go off of what is asked.

A man who is in constant contact with his ex-girlfriend is #1. still attached to her...#2. is still trying to hold on to her...and #3. there is more then a 50% chance they are still sleeping together.
Now please feel free to send me more information but I can guarantee that 2 out of the 3 listed is taking place...

almost exactly what you said.

I hate when my boy has an ex-girl friend! it makes me angry!

I feel like you didn't even list the b) option that Teddy listed above. In my opinion your response sounds like you are already bashing her bf, which kind of puts you a bit lower down as well - never talk bad about the BF, there are PUA ways of making the girl pull away from him eventually. You already made it seem like he is cheating on this girl; which, could be true, but isn't always.

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