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Hey folks,
Im sorta new on the PUA scene. 28 years old. I think i have AA. Although, I seemingly have no trouble going up and talking to random strangers for the time, or saying hi, how are you to clerks in stores. Hell i've even been a clerk in many stores/businesses over the years, dealt with many hot chicks etc. etc. I'm a musician on the side. I've put out my own records independently, have had a few orchestras play my music, have played live in front of many crowds.
For some reason, I find it incredibly daunting to walk up to an HB in the mall and say "I just saw you and i think you're attractive. I just had to come over here to meet you". For one, my brain isnt quick enough to process it. Sometimes you see a "hot chick" coming but then as she gets closer you notice she's 40 lol or maybe she's under 18. If shes around my age, thoughts then start flooding my brain and something tells me I should not turn around and go after her.
How the fuck can I get over this? I've gone 2 weeks out and about and still have not opened anyone. Yet I can talk to Joe Schmo at the bus stop all day and actually get approached a lot myself from usually older folks 40's-60's at bus stops, malls etc.
Your issue is pretty normal. I've told myself I will never pass up the chance to open a 10 in a grocery store again but did a few days ago. Walk up, cold approaches can be very difficult and there are a lot of factors. Usually what I try to do in a day game situation is get in a position to have a natural conversation where I can avoid the walk up. If it's in the store, maybe there is something in the isle she's in you are shopping for too. Maybe you can say something at the check out, or maybe say something outside.
What I would recommend is push yourself to open. No matter how hard it seems at the time, and even if you get blown out, it's ok. 2 minutes later she will forget it. You can get experience to the point it gets funny when you get blown off.