Sadly, I'm drawing a blank. I've been working with this girl for about 4-5 months now, and I haven't been able to find a valid opportunity to open with her. I've managed to get a facebook add (Big deal, everyone seems to get them now) but no number. I seem to get a few IOIs from her occasionally, but they may be me overreading and misinterpreting. For example: Initiating conversations with me, occasional glances/smiles at me (especially noticed when standing fairly close together.) So long story short, here is my question. What first? Any ideas? And if I havent provided enough info, ask away

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Please Hold.

I was here a few months ago. Only she's engaged, too. We had sex a couple of times. Now it's a big cluster fuck. Tread lightly my friend.

It's very difficult to game at work, so you need to move to a new location. Really the only way to do this is become her friend and invite her out. Make friends with her just like you would anyone else. If you're nervous about it, invite some guys out at work for a drink and tell her to come along. Just take the pressure off of yourself (and her) in the context of romance and it'll be easy. Escalation can come later.

What you can do is start getting extra friendly and flirtactious, then look for ioi's. The way you open is by making some goofy situational comment related to work or what's going on in that moment. Then continually tease her in a playful manner. Nothing sexual unless she takes it there first.

What you are trying to do is find out if this girl would be interested in you, and also show her that you are interested in her. When you continually tease her, it becomes obvious that hey, this guy is flirting with me. Once the girl realizes that, she'll either respond positively, neutrally, or negatively. And she'll give you ioi's, iod's, or mixed signals.

You can then ask her something like "Hey Laura, would you ever hang out with someone from work?" or "Have you ever hung out with people from work?" If she says yes, then ask her out. If she says no, then keep beating around the bush until she gets the hint or flat out rejects you with solid iod's.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Myself and Ninja offered some sound advice on a similar thread just the other day.

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The same applies to this question.