| This is kind of a weird problem. I can get into a club, have a good time and have no trouble at all hitting on, approaching and meeting women. It's like second nature, probably because of the environment. But the weird thing is, when I'm say out in public during the day, no music, no one dancing, no one is there expecting to be picked up (which is why in clubs women tend to have their guards up more), yet I freeze. Whether it's a coffee shop, at a store, in a mall or some other place, I just freeze up. Even church, not that I'm really religious but there are a lot of hot girls at some places I've been to (why not meet them there, right?) But I just have such a tough time with cold approaching... can anyone help? What did you do to overcome this?
I am confident, sometimes even too much so. Women in bars tell me I'm too confident. I tell them I don't care, because it's how I am (with a smile of course). And it works. And I'm a great, natural talker so establishing rapport is no problem once I break that initial ice. But when I'm at a public place, not a club or bar, and see a girl I'd like to meet, I just instantly freeze up and I DON'T approach. I hate this because I feel like I'm hindering myself from actually connecting with a girl I'd really like to meet and maybe even have a decent relationship or connection with. And no, it's because of booze I'm so good in clubs. I don't drink, ever. I just love the nature hype environment of clubs with all the people and everything there. But I suck at Day Game.
How do I get better? And give me some tips on how to overcome this. It's probably all inner game, but anything that will help me would be appreciated! Thanks bros.
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