I lost my game when I stopped drinking and haven't had a girlfriend or even been laid since. I've been doing Match without much success but now they have these Stir events where there are like 75 women and 75 guys that should all be there for the same reason, too meet someone. This seems like the best chance I've had in a long time.
The event is at a local bar and I am terrible at approaching women but my self-confidence in my body and looks is good right now (as I have been hitting the gym a lot) so I think I will be able to approach them. I am just not sure of what to say and also could use some advice on eye contact. I am 42 and think the women will probably be in the 30-50 y.o. range if the matters.

the event sounds promising and yeah if i were you i would definitely go man..
the main thing you need to remember is alot of foreveraloners use online dating
you need to convey that you are not one of them (by the sounds of it you are so this will be difficult) no doubt they will ask you.. what you work as?, where you live? boring shit like that so have a few funny maybe even cocky answers stacked up.. you will stand out from the crowd of boring foreveraloners..

why did you stop drinking? you should have a few (don't over do it though)
oh and don't buy a girl a drink unless your getting ioi's and have engaged in decent converastion for at least 5 minutes..

talk to the guys at this thing aswell be social and most importantly smile and have a laugh don't take this thing too seriously.. good luck

I went to the Stir event and had a pretty good time while I was there. It was at a very nice bar from 6-9pm. Early on the ratio was great with 2 girls for every guy and I did pretty good kind of chatting with groups of ladies. There were many times, though, where a girl would be alone and I would want to go up and talk to them but just could never get up the cajones to do it.

In the middle of the evening the friend of a girl I had made eye contact with earlier walked up to me and said "my friend is interested in you, you should go talk to her" so we ended up talking for about 30 minutes and at some point I gave her my business card and she said "Does this mean I can call you, can I give you my phone number, Is that being too forward?" So I got her number and am supposed to call her tonight after work.

After that, I wanted to at least meet a few more women while I had the chance but the vibe had definitely changed. The ratio was more even and people were drunker. You would think that would be good, but when you are the sober one, it wasn't. So I kind of left on a down note as I was unable to approach anyone after that and felt like a puss.

At least 1 got one girl's number. Oh and to answer your question about drinking, I got into some trouble with the law and had to go through drug court where I was drug/alcohol tested for 2 years. Now I am done with all that but would prefer to not start drinking again. The only time I am ever tempted is in situations like this where I think I might help me get laid.

Sounds like you are just lacking a little confidence man that will come in time..
but if you want a quicker boost things that helped me were getting my outer stuff sorted (hair,body,clothes) get all that stuff done if you haven't already also (if you watch porn) check out my no fap thread.. no-fap-is-it-real-vt144286.html not fapping helped me out ALOT.

As for alcohol i'd suggest a moderate intake but only if theres girls don't sit at home with beers or get wasted at a shitty gathering only use it to boost confidence and run your game don't get wasted.

Good luck with the phone number..

I've got the outer stuff in order and have hoped that would be enough for women to approach me which has left me an AFC. Been on a few dates, paid for everything and have been so worried as not to offend the girl, haven't gotten anywhere or relegated to the dreaded friend zone. So after checking this site out this week went out with the girl whose number I got at the other night and made a lot of sexual banter which she reciprocated.

The night went well. I kissed her a few times when I dropped her off. I had to go home and get one out but now plan to try the no fapping thing for as long as I can hold out or hopefully she'll care of it for me the next time I see her. One problem could be that I edged (never heard the term til I clicked your link) earlier today and am already a bit on edge. Here goes nothing......(':shock:')