This comes from my experience in sales so I hope it works
Mirror her body language
Mirror her speach (she talks slow, dont talk fast)
Energy levels have to be about the same
Talk a lot in statements
No yes / no questions
Ask questions about her. Continue from what she said. I believe Gambler had a good way to continue the conversation. When she says something, ask yourself 3 questions.
What kind of women would do that.
Why would she do it
What feelings does she have while doing it.
For example:
If she says she was surfing last week,
You can make this analysis.
They are adventurous, probably likes traveling as well. They probably also like the challenge to stay on theyr board etc and really like the adrealine rush. Then you can make statements about these and continue your convo this way (I believe this was the same example Gambler gave, didnt feel like being original).
Also your opener might be the problem. Your opener needs to give you info you can use to continue the conversation with. If you dont get any info about her or her beliefs continuing the convo is hard.
Good opener:
What sets you apart from all the other women here? And dont talk about your appearance.
Like this she has to give you some info you can work with. After she said something, just reframe it/ repeat what she said in other words and let her continue talking.
she I like surfing.
you Ahh, I can understand that, you really like being one with the ocean, standing on top the the waves. It probably reaaly feals good doesnt it?
she something else
(again with the surfing)
chiefs-guide-to-outer-game-vt75887.html
is also a good guide, written by Chief, especially the part about conversations might help you.