So i have recieved so many emails regarding this topic on how to make direct approaches work during the day.
So decided to write a full blog post on how
Check it out on my blog and subscribe for better formatting but i will also be posting it on this forum since the mods would prefer that as well.
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http://theattractiveu.com/how-to-make-a ... oach-work/
Okay so a lot of guys have issues with making a direct approach work for them during the day time. I have received a few emails regarding this. How women may not respond how they wanted them to or how they expected. That is the first mistake, when you compliment a women, DON'T expect anything back from it, for all she knows you could be a some crazy psychopath. So you should be complimenting her for what you genuinely feel about her.
So i am going to go through some of the important things I've noticed that make direct day game approaches affective. I think it is more beneficial to go DIRECT during that day vs. INDIRECT.
Have a String Body Language!
If you fidget, or slouch, or show POOR body language. She will automatically assume you are a man of low status. So you want to really make sure your shoulders are up, back straight, and chest is sticking out a little. Don't try to hard and make it look like your trying to hard, just try and fix your language. Also use gestures will you are speaking and ALWAYS make light soft eye contact. Hold your head HIGH.
Have STRONG Speech
Slow your speech down and include pauses in your statements. This will add a more dramatic effect to the conversation. if you rush the whole approach out immediately, it will make you seem nervous and scared she is going to run away from you. “Excuse me... [pause] I just saw you walking past...
[pause] and I had to come tell you... [pause] you look amazing.”
Make sure to keep the same stable voice tone throughout the opening line.
Compliment Something Specific
It's easy to tell a women she is beautiful, but it raises your value to compliment something specific about her. She knows that a guy who pays attention to details within the first few seconds will pay attention to details in the bed room. i typically compliment a women on her style, hair or body language since most women put SO much time into this part of their lives. Try using different words that she doesn't hear often, for example: "elegant", "graceful", etc.
Show You Are A Man Of Standards
Try incidentally mentioning your standards. For example after she responds to the initial compliment respond with something like "Seriously its rare to see a women with a style like your where i am from, you really have something unique about you". This alone will open the door to an entire thread of conversation. Such as her asking "So where are you from?" "How are the girls there?" See what i mean? By doing this you show her that most women you meet don't have the quality you are looking for. You are showing you meet a lot of women but the average ones lack something you want.
Show That You Want More Than Just Looks
So i think the issue is with a lot of guys is that when they approach a female they have to impress her or began seduction immediately. This is NOT the case, and shouldn't be in your head initially. The goal is to simply create the opportunity to start a conversation and see if she is someone you would want to talk to or get to know better. DON'T decide you want to sleep with her just because how she looks. If you keep this mindset you will make your bed harder to sleep in. Set the tone that you started the conversation because you found her attractive, which she probably knows, but also let her know she doesn't "have you" just because of her looks. I usually add a comment in to my opening like "...I just had to come talk and find out more about you." This makes her believe you are genuinely interested and not just her looks like most guys.Example: "Excuse me, i seen you walking past and i love your style! i had to come introduce myself and find out more about you." See what i mean?
Be Ready To Lead The Conversation
Most guys expect women to open up immediately after approaching them and complimenting them and magically get their number. You need to be prepared to take the conversation some where else, by asking intriguing questions that lets you know more about her personality. Maybe make a situational joke. It is VERY important to follow up with something after the approach, if not she will just say "Thank You" and continue on.
Believe You will Get A Positive Response
I found this to be hard, and still struggle with it sometime. Approaches work BEST if you believe they are going to work. You have to have confidence in your approach. Whats in your mind will translate to your body language and other parts of your game. This will take MANY approaches, before you get the mindset "This Works!". You will have rejections, and ups and downs. You wont develop this mindset by reading a book, but only by getting out there! Once you get out there and get some good interactions under your belt, you will feel more confident when going into new approaches. Your first 10 to 15 approaches working up the courage to approach will be tough, but you can do it. I still get approach anxiety EVERY TIME i approach someone. Its normal, but you have to embrace it and fight against it. Its a limiting belief that limits SO many guys from meeting women who would love to be with them.
Hope this helps guys with their day game as much as it has helped me.
Sluggler
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