| What guys, so i originally posted this on my blog, but i believe the Mods would prefer me to post my articles to the forum vs providing the link.
So over my journey of pickup artistry so far, i have certainly realized your MINDSET is a lot of important than openers,negs, DHV ies, etc. Your mindset will overall effect your game in which ever way your mindset is directed.
This is certainly important when it comes to Day Game. When you are in the field throughout the day you have about a few seconds to decided whether you are going to approach the beautiful women that just walked past you, or miss out on the opportunity of the unknown. Its you choice, but I want to help you make the right decision by having the CORRECT mindset. I’ve been thought and came up with a definitive list of traits one must have to be successful at daytime dating.
Slugger’s Day Game Mindset
1.anything is possible
- I use to consider approaching a women in the day time was an impossible situation. I soon realized this was possible plus more(take her on a date, get her phone number, end up in bed with her, meet cool friends, etc).
- I’ve approached women while they were with their friends, family members, mother and daughter sets, hot mothers with their children and a few other situations that appear like they could be awkward. Yes some situations are more improbable than others but anything is possible with much time and energy.
- I haven’t done everything I want in terms of day time approaching but now I know anything is achievable and you must too.
2.Take the risk for the things you want
- You must first realize that taking a risk isn’t always about achieving what you want. There is always going to be failures and things that don’t go your way, and you MUST accept that. When im relaxing by myself, im not thinking about how many women I’ve been with, but i think about all the opportunities i have taken advantage of when it comes to meeting women, and approaching…and all the opportunities that will arise in the future, and the ones i have received rewards from so far.
- Living life with the hottest, intelligent women around you is great, yeah, but what is more satisfying is living a life of action instead of regret. Think about that.
- Every time you see a beautiful women you wan to approach throughout the day, think about the feeling you will feel of possibly of getting rejected, and approaching a stranger and then compare that to the feeling of regretting, and kicking yourself the rest of the day, month or week about not approaching that beautiful women. When seeing a women on the street you only have a few seconds to decide whether you want to go after her.
3. Express your feelings and desires(ont always look to use canned openers)
- Day time dating differs from night game because its like putting a magnifying glass on your social interactions. suddenly everything is more detailed. It isn’t at this level in a night club or bar.
- Another difference is that in a night club/bar you have more time to procrastinate about talking to a HB. In day game you have a few seconds to approach before she is gone out your life forever.
- In day game you don’t have time to rationalize, or plan out the interaction. If you are the type that needs this, you should plan ahead of time, because you wont have time to do this when a beautiful women is walking past. You have to make a decision QUICK.
- The easiest way that i have done this is by expressing your desires and feelings as soon as i feel them. If i see a beautiful women walking past and i like her fashion style i will immediately get her attention by saying Hi or hey, and let her know i find her fashion sense attractive. Its that simple. Then just be ready to follow-up by asking her name, blah blah.
- The more time you think about what you should do or say you will begin to feel that nervousness and miss the opportunity.
- Embracing your desires and how you feel separates you from most guys. Be genuine. Women will really see this, and it will automatically raise your value.
- You must be happy with expressing yourself, and not expecting anything back from the women. You should just be happy you were able to approach and express yourself, while giving you both a chance to meet and start something. For example. i told a girl once how beautiful i thought she was during day game, and she never gave me a compliment back or act a certain way to it, nor did i expect her too. Later on about 2 weeks later while we were out she tells me how attractive and sexy she thought i was. Get the point?
4. Positioning yourself as a higher value
- When you are about to approach a women in general, always have the mindset that your value is higher, or equal.(I would prefer higher). Who knows, she could be looking for a job at the place you manage, you never know! Of course she may have a higher value if she is the hottest chick in the venue, because she may have every AFC’s attention. So you would need to position her as a lower value. image her being your intern, or something of lower status to you. Position yourself higher!
5. because you want something, don’t think you NEED it.
- The only thing you need is food, water, and air. Don’t ever inter an interaction with the mindset that you NEED the women. Always have a mentality that yes i want you, but I also don’t need you.
- Realize that she may be the most attractive women you’ve dealt with, and you want to explore her in romantic and physical ways, but remember that she isn’t necessary for your happiness.
- It’s the highest position you can place yourself in, in relationships, and in life.
These are the things you must have to be successful at day game. Yes, you can start with one of these and not the others, but you will notice it more frustrating or difficult. It’s all about the mindset!
Sluggler
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