| For the purposes of this post, I must clarify that going out solo means you are alone in a venue where other people already know each other, most of them dispersed in various cliques. The slight differences and intricacies of solo game do not apply to day game or amongst a group of strangers. You might be alone, but there is no inherent change in social dynamics versus regular game. No girl is going to wonder “aren’t you here with friends?” when you approach her at a café. If you need a posse to run day game, you’d be better off scraping hookers from the curbs of market side streets.
From the beginning to the end of going out alone, you’ll have to remain in state. It’s easy to zone out as any time you’re left alone you run the risk of reflecting on a recent rejection and becoming OUT COME DEPENDENT. “Fuck, hopefully I’ll play it off better next time,” or “fuck, I need to escalate faster,” which makes you more conscious of what you’re doing and your game loses its fluidity. It's easy to remain in state while with other people because you have a social group to default to anytime you're caught by yourself. I’ve found two solutions to this. First is to power away, and embrace your conscious moments. After a good amount of time, they will be irrelevant. Think on the level of Tyler Durden’s 1000-day challenge, he went out consistently for a thousand days and forced himself to approach every day. Eventually it just becomes a natural thing to do and your internal resistance melts away.
But besides that, I have a special technique for solo game; laddering. So you walk into the club or bar, you’re not warmed up, and you’re internal resistance is running high. To start tombstoning pussy left and right like a horny undertaker; approach a 4 or a 5 early. Try and get a good read and look for one self-aware of her own value and who won’t reject you head-on to inflate her ego. She’ll introduce you to her friends, at which point it becomes important to make SURE you advertise your willingness to walk away. Use time constraints, “yah I actually think I’m going to head out soon, I have a meeting really early in the morning” or straight walk away a few times. Her friends will quickly assume “God dam he must be a loser for trying to bag the designated ugly chick,” unless you show that you’re a high value male, to which they’ll instead wonder “what does he see in her?”
From here on in, they can function as your surrogate social clique, and they will embrace you because they think you’re willing to give their dick-starved friend a taste of foreskin. And thus the laddering begins. Tell the 4 or 5, “let’s go meet some other people.” And finally, the culmination of this most malice scheme; pawn her for a 6. Rinse and repeat for a 7. Women are naturally competitive, use it against them. It’s the same idea as a girl mentioning her ex to get you to subliminally compete with her past lovers; but twisted for your own purposes.
And a final point that comes to mind, if anyone’s seen The Pick-Up Artist (Mystery’s own show on Vh1), you will remember that a bunch of times the guys blew opportunities by giving a straight answer to “are you here with anyone?” Anything along the lines of “Yah, my friends are coming, I’m waiting for them” degrades you’re value. Not only do you look AFC for coming earlier and waiting on others, but after a while, she figures you were lying to her and attraction funnels out. You’re going to have to play it off smooth, keeping it as brief as possible to avoid indirectly increasing the significance of the issue. Something like:
Her: “Where are your friends?
You: “[pause and smirk for a second] 3000 miles away.”
And voila, you have a new conversational thread, but one you’ll want to keep under wraps to keep mystery up. You are now the daring man willing to leave everything to pursue a dream in a new city.
On a sidenote, one of my friends who regularly lies to get poon has recently disclosed to me two very big problems he’s been running into. Recently at a club where he pretended to be a wealthy foreigner, two of his friends were present and yelled out to him. The girl caught on quickly. And second, it becomes difficult to establish anything beyond a fling as she will begin to see very visible incongruences (“wtf… he said he was rich. Why does he need to borrow $5 for the cab).
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