what the best way to solo sarge i need some tips, im fairly new to this and have basic knowledge about the game and method but i mainly go out by myself and every time i approach a girl i feel like im makin' her uncomfortable and im coming across as needy or desperate

If that is what is going on in your head then you need to work on your inner game. You aren't a "bother", its a priveldge to talk to you and to get to know you, you are radiant, interesting, and fun to speak with. Why would anyone ever think you are making her uncomfortable coming off as needy or desperate....

This is all in your mind and how you approach things mentally, along with how you view yourself. Work on your own inner confidence and inner game if you will.

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When sarging alone, I tend to go where I am already recognized by the staff, or others. It helps my own comfort level. (night game).

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thanks guys i'll start with working on that this weekend

Try and keep some distance initially. Talk over shoulder and then make her come closer to you by being interesting.

My only concern with solo sarging is that it is possibly a DLV. How are you meant to use false time constraints "I need to get back to my friends" and show high social status if you have no one around you.

I know its tough because most friends are AFC's with negative attitude towards pick up and women. I can at least admit I am an AFC but am trying to work towards self improvement and I hate surrounding myself with negative, self-conscious people because it rubs off on me.

I want to stop you right here for a moment. There is nothing wrong with going out sargining solo. It is not a DLV for any means. Again, its all back to your own mindset and attitude. For solo sarging I like to do a few things. I like to go to a place where I know the staff so I always have people to talk to, not to mention the social proof, and I'm always out to just have fun! FYI: If you haven't started to get to know the staff spend a few minutes each time you are there talking to every bouncer, bartender, hostess, manager, etc. This pays off in dividends later!

Approach it with the mindset you are out to just have fun and meet new people. Keep it that simple. Now girls will shit test you asking you, "Where are you friends?" "Are you here alone?" Have a planned response for this. Remember don't make it a big deal cause it's not, people go out alone all the time! I use to say something like, "My friends were busy tonight, but there was not reason why I couldn't have a good time, so here I am having fun and meeting new people like you folks." Then don't bring it up again.
Definitely be careful to protect your attitude. I actually did a video about this a while back. Basically, remember that you CONTROL your attitude. Also remember that a positive mental attitude is not something we naturally get right away, it is a learned skillset. Do things that bring you to a positive state, and then protect it. Be careful who you talk to, and what you do before you go in the field because make no mistake that positive mental attitude needs to start before you ever leave your place.

http://vimeo.com/2732841

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I thought the same way... until I went out solo last Friday.

I ended up with two attractive girls, one of which I laid on a day 2, to bring out with me who absolutely enjoyed my company and want to hang out with me again. Hell, the girl DHV'd me the entire time making it that much easier to 'hook up' with her friend.

If anything, it's DHV not a DLV. The only people who consider it a DLV probably have self-esteem issues themselves. I had guys come up and introduce themselves to me after watching me interact with the girls.

BONUS: The girls are bartenders/'hired guns'... Now when I go to 'their' bar I have instant social proof.

Nice job bro which bar where you at here in Nashville?

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I agree. It demonstrates DHV when you tell a girl you are out by yourself and she can see that you are completely comfortable with that. If you ACT nervous or like it is because you "have no friends" or something like that, then it becomes a DLV. It is all how you project yourself.

I have to go out alone quite a bit.

I disagree with going somehwere that you know people (knowing the staff is another thing). If I go to a bar myself where I know I will run into friends, then guess what — I spend all my time with my friends hanging out and pickup gets pushed to the side.

I go through the same thing networking for business. I purposely leave my friends home so I am forced to meet new people if I don't want to feel uncomfortable.

One trick I like to do is to introduce myself to a large set right off the bat when I walk in, but make body language like they are already your good friends. Or just walk up to random people "high-fiving" or giving up the "dap" or whatever it is that you do, so that OTHER girls notice you across the room and "know" that you are a VIP.

I've even "befriended" large sets before, and bounced to other clubs with them during the course of the night which results in making yourself look as though you came with an entourage — when in reality you just met these fucking people at the last club!

I would much rather go sarge on my own than bring an "uninitiated" friend with me. If I have an "initiated" wingman at my side that's a different story altogether.
This one has been working for me lately really well. I EASILY get into a negative state of mind. I have met girls this week where 15 minutes before we met I was mentally dwelling on some shit that I did not want to bring with me.

So here is what I do.

Picture Tom Cruise in the movie "Magnolia" right? If you haven't seen the movie you need to YouTube this shit or watch it yourself…

Then, when you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, like — "I hope I'm not late…"

Then you say to yourself "The ALPHA MALE does not GIVE A FUCK if he is late to meet this girl. If this girl has a problem with it, that just means she needs to learn to RESPECT THE COCK!"

You catch yourself saying something like "I don't know if I wore the right shirt (or something similar)…

"The ALPHA MALE doesn't GIVE A FUCK what he is wearing, if this chick doesn't like it she just needs to learn to RESPECT THE COCK…"

You catch yourself thinking in your head something like "How am I going to get this girl to come home with me since she is moving so slowly…"

"The ALPHA MALE doesn't GIVE A FUCK about what this girl thinks, she just needs to RESPECT THE COCK…"

Whatever the scenario, as soon as I am sitting in the driver's seat saying this shit LOUD, as if I were Tom Cruise standing on the stage giving my seminar to all the AFCs in the crowd, I can't help but bust out laughing my ass off as I do it.

And it puts me in the right state of mind every time.

In fact, I believe I am going to watch Magnolia once again soon.

Also, the following cats in the movies are good references as to the attitude you should project…

Don Draper — Mad Men
James Bond 007 — Sean Connery, and Daniel Craig
Tom Cruise — Magnolia

Don Draper, an alpha male doesn't GIVE A FUCK what his secretary thinks, she just needs to learn to respect the cock!

Get it?

Find something that makes you laugh your ass off and puts you in the right state. Do it at the club.

If you get thrown out of a set, immediately say to yourself "Well, that bitch just needs to learn to RESPECT THE COCK…" and move on.

The laughter you project will carry right into the next set, at which point the girl just may respect the cock outright.