indirect is full proof.
direct is not.
there's no "better",there's whats working for you.
about the "AA" i got past that in two ways:
1.open sets(even with "hey" and "you have the time?".
2.learn some general psychology(evolutional,of course,and even social)
that way you know how females/males work = everything is easier.
cheers man

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