Everyone has an approach anxiety. We all at one point get nervous, may think the woman its too hot, or that people are looking at me or what if i studder, or i forget what I had in mind and many other reasons that go through our heads before approaching but all of these thoughts are form because of the fear of rejection.

Every PUA at one point was afraid of rejection. Noone likes to be rejected because it puts us down, lowers our ego, may be we start thinking we're not good looking enough and mainly just messes with your head. For many PUAs the fear of rejection goes away after many approaches, but for many upcoming PUAs the fear of rejection its still there.

With that said, if you are in the side of still fearing rejection I want you to do the following:

1. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle.
2. On the left side I want you to right "gains"
3. On the right side I want you to write "loses."

Now I want you sit down and think about the things that you can gain by approaching a girl. For example when you approach a girl you can:

gain experience with an opener
gain experience with kino
gain a good conversation
gain a new friend
gain her phone number
gain a kiss
gain a new fuck buddy
gain your new future girlfriend
gain your new future wife
gain more confidence
you can gain many many many many things.

Notice that we just came up with 10 things that you can gain and theres plenty more that just 10 things.

Now i want you to go to the right side and think about the things you can lose..........................can you think of anything? Let me guess, you cant because there isnt anything to lose. By approaching a woman or in the PUA community in general you can't never lose, you can only win. You see, you can't lose before the approach because before you approached you started off with nothing.

Now I want you to tear the paper down in half, put in the trash the things you can lose (which is nothing) and put in your pocket the things that you can gain. If you are still in the phase of fear of rejection, fear no more beacause you can only win and never lose!

Best Regards,

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IMO the best product in this industry for AA is "kill approach anxiety " by Valmont

loses:

- lose ur confidence
- start to doubt yourself
- get beaten up by her boyfriend
- get slapped by her
- feel like an idiot
- lose ur value to other girls
- etc...


Jk, but I know what you mean and I agree

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Some people are like slinkys, not really good for anything but make you smile when you push them down the stairs.

This is a sticking point for me.

Lets say shes a receptionist in the health club i go to and i ask for her number or ask her out and she gossips to everyone about me.

What if the girl tells people oh this guys a creeper, hes stalking me, hes harrassing me, blah blah blah...

see where im coming from?

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

She won't. If she doesn't care about you at worst she'll be like "there was this one guy (notice the impersonality of this one guy) who tried to go on a date with me. What a douche." And her friend will be like "Yeah, men..."
Like they care who you are afterwards.

This is what i need to hear.

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

Good post. Thanks a lot!

I agree with the quote above. if she rejects you is because she doesnt care and if she doesnt care shes not going to bother spending time to talk about you. at much shell think youre weird or something which will happen to almost every guy when they get rejected

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[quote="InfluenceGenius"]IMO the best product in this industry for AA is "kill approach anxiety " by Valmont[/quote]
Thanks for the tip, Valmont.

Where can I get it?

Im also intersted in this book and would like to know where to get it from so just posting to get any updates.

didn't see it on amazon. Any one know where to get it? Something equally awesome?

good post! makes me wanna approach more.

my problem is I am afraid of the approach, but I am afraid of talking with the girl in general once we know each other even more! in general i feel awkward around people and have verbal difficulty with regular conversation, very stiff and don't feel any reaction or interest in what people tell me. so people feel dismissed by me and i never get 2nd/3rd dates. is there a product for that too, lol?

I like thinking about a past lay all the crazy sex we had. Then think about how your target would love some cock as well.

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Stay High

"I'm savage as fuck, and willing and able and never got clowned cuz when it came around I was down to put my dick on the table"