Alright, so this was my first night going out to focus on improving my game. I went to a local "underground" type bar with two three of my guy friends, and my buddies GF.

My friend (the one with the GF who we brought) had like 12 shots of rum before we got to the bar, so he was pretty damn hammered. As soon as we entered the bar, I was walking arm and arm with my buddies GF. They are a pretty open couple, and they both knew the arm and arm didn't mean anything, and that it was meant to help me.

However, since I'm still new at this, I still get the jitters, and I find myself really being held back, and can't go through the 3 second rule. It's like taking a test, I can't think of an opening, and I can't remember how to move to DHV (even though I know openers, and I know the 3 second rule helps me overthinking things)

My drunk buddy kept on pushing me to get out and look for sets, he kept pushing and pushing and when we found this 5 set full of HB8s he pushed my into it...not a good way to enter a set..

I engaged one of the girls, it was hard to engage the whole group cause they were dancing and really really spread out, but I went with the angry girlfriend opener cause I got pushed in so fast I didn't know what to do. I did over the shoulder, and I got a hair touch IOI, but while I way doing the opener my drunk bud was talking to her in her other ear so the set just really blew up. My friend kept trying to get my to dance, he kept grabbing my and making dancing motions saying "All you have to do is dance"

All this pissed me off pretty bad, and after that he was pretty pissed off at me, and just wanted to go home and wouldnt stop bitching to his girlfriend. He was pissing off out whole group so we eventually left.

I feel ok that I opened a set even after being pushed in, but I need to find a way to get in the mode so Im not so overanalytical...Should I memorize a routine to make it easier? And should I only go out to these places with one other person?

Sorry for the long post. Any help would be awesome. What do you think of tonights experience.

Its great to have a guy wing... as long as he's not totally wasted... but you should for sure memorize at least a default opener, DHV, NEG, and a routine so you could do it even with your eyes closed.

Congrats on opening a set. Next time leave the overly drunk friend at home and just take his gf. she sounds like a good pivot. Try going out by yourself. It will work wonders because it forces you to be mor social than you normaly would. Having a few good openers already memorized really helps as long as you do not sound like a robot spitting out game.

Go to youtube check out some videos. Watch keys to the VIP and look how natural the guys move in and outta sets. Just be more prepared next time.

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Yeah I've watched alot of Keys to the VIP, and I'm great with my body language. I don't peck, and I bring the girl in, and I always talk over the shoulder to not telegraph interest. I guess I just need to start opening sets regardless of who's in them. I'm going to really really really memorize a routine before I go out tommorow.

What I'm proud of is even though I only opened one set, and I lost it pretty early, I don't feel bad at all. I feel like I'm moving forward at least!