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I'm 24 years old, only 1 gf in my life, I'm desperate, I don't know what to do, afraid of rejection, etc. I go to college, but it seems that as soon classes finish everyone goes straight to their cars. No time for anything. I go to the library after my class to do some homework and also to see if I have an opportunity to meet any girl. Advice please? Also, there is one girl who is always sitting near me, from 1 to 10 she is 10. She never talks, she doesn't move her hear to the sides, she is constantly doing work in the computer, she is constantly receiving and sending messages, and she put the ringtone loud the last time I was there like saying "do not disturb". Is there any way to approach this girl? I can't get any ideas what to say. She will just answer me question and continue working like a robot. Help me
Hello bac1144
First off let me say good job for going to college, I just started Monday myself same age too. Hopefully the girls don't distract you too much from your studies.
I know the feeling, everyone rushing, girls avoid eye contact, and you begin to feel ostracized and wonder "what the hell's wrong with me?." I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you have good hygiene and can string a sentence together.
So this one girl that's in you'r class don't get to focused on any ONE girl, you'r in college... there's literally 100's of girls most of which you won't run into again. If you are going to approach her, don't make a big deal about it just sit beside her and lay on some small talk smile and don't come off as to eager,pretend like shes already you'r friend
"Hey,hows the course going?" then take an observant approach
"I notice you'r always on you'r computer, you make time to do anything fun?" then you can segway into "fun things" talk a bit more and ask her to hang out
be straight! "I'm new and just trying to get to know people,
how am I doing?"
If she continues to be a bi^% then forget her, I've been shut down by people like this all the time an example
On orientation we where all shuffled into a room, I was chatting up a receptive girl,but she seen friends and broke off then I see a cute girl crouched forward on a desk "Hi I'm Compass, whats up?" and we chatted but she was giving me closed body language, and robot answers, so I shut right off and stared forward. She actually liked this, I seen her with my peripherals she looked and stared at me about three times in the 7 minutes we sat there until the speaker showed up.
Here's my lesson shallow people are not worth it, there weak in their core and I refuse to compromise my character for the approval of someone with no value. Could I get this girl? probably, all I'de have to do is continue to be an as$. Do I want someone like that around me?...no
The Library is THE place to meet new people, I have't made any new contacts yet but there where a couple who wanted to get to know me...I'm kinda picky,personal flaw. Anyway, go to the library like usual and stand at the front entrance, scan the library an simply go and sit down and ask some girl a stupid question "Hey did I see you on orientation?" "Are you in my class?" or be bold (I'm actually going to go try this one this afternoon) "Where do you meet people around here?, been here a week and still don't know anyone

" I'll be sure to post how this one goes for me.
Hope this helps bac1144 as one last note, the success of your year depends on you'r involvement with the school,sign up for clubs(even things you usually wouldn't do" go to theme nights at the bar etc.) People in clubs are extremely supportive and will help you increase you'r social circle.
Sincerely, Compass